My recent take on Travelling

I think what pains me immensely these days is that how Travel has become a thoughtless activity that people indulge into when they have 1 day or 2 days off or longer vacation at spare.
They just seem to indulge into it without really understanding the true meaning of travel & its benefits. Maybe its a one way opinion as a lot of my critics in the past have commented. However, when I talk to these people who claim to love travelling & indulge into regularly I find & feel they have simply wasted money & their time.
They have gone & done something without taking all the wonderful things which travelling to a new place has to offer.

This gives rise to a lot of unwanted providers or travel agents/portals/marketplaces which are also formed by people who feel they know travelling & business so why not to bring them together. These providers become the eyes of these travellers who do not know where they want to see.

Not taking away from some of the great travelling experiences which are provided by some great individuals, providers. Ganga Panga by Mohit Midha is one of the closest which has achieved greatness plus our Spiti Trip became great because of people’s enthusiasm, great place.

However recently after coming back from Bhutan Trip – I didn’t feel that achievement or euphoria perhaps coz of the company in travel or because I was stressed due to recent office stuff. The place was great, met some lovely people, had loads of road travel which I love, however I did not feel top of the world but felt tired & didn’t feel like going to travel again soon 😦 which is very unlike me. Am I getting too old?

I think I would like to travel to more fascinating places with more fascinating people who also share the love of travel & like to encourage one another to explore more & better in a not so obvious way. People who are a lot more accommodating & giving plus not demanding are the kind of people I know to get along well with on long term.

Am sure there are more wonderful trips coming! πŸ™‚

A few important learnings which came my way : Patience is not about waiting but what you do while waiting, having calmness is a sign of great strength, there is nothing more important than your work – having complete dedication towards is the ultimate way towards Nirvana. Be a Professional & one can hardly go wrong!

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What & Who I wanted to be as a kid..

Looking back 20-25 years back into my mind palace of the younger me – just for fun or to just check how far I have arrived in the true/correct direction, I do not feel very different or overwhelmed in any happy/sad way.

I remember as a 10 year old wanting to be good, I wanted to excel, compete & come first in Sports, Theatre, painting, studies, being loved, looking smart, etc. etc.
So yeah wanting to be best in short!

As I grew & figured out a way to do graduation, PG, job – I realised different meanings of being best or successful or happy – they were a lot more Convoluted & Grey! I also realised the importance of having different perspectives & respecting all while peacefully keeping your point of view or beliefs without hurting others.

I learnt to bring a lot more from your inner self not just in terms of physical strength, talents, mental capability but something bigger & eternal – your INNER SELF which is difficult to describe & explain but the one who connects to it & listens to it always is a WINNER throughout. I realised it is more important to give than to receive, that one has to ultimately LetGo everything for everything to eventually come back to him/her.

I learnt that it is critical to be more positive, warm, smiling, energetic, motivated, friendly everyday basis & keep your darkness/distractions/sadness/confusions at bay. The few questions that tend to keep honking will get answered on its own.

I realised happily that there is so much beauty in this world to explore via music, food, places, photography, dance, movies, people, art, architecture, history, etc. etc. They are like museums to go & take a walk & come back feeling so much better & learned.

Most importantly I have learned the value of Patience – of having an endless supply of it in all times – good & bad. The ones I love & admire have abundance of it & have benefitted from it time & again. Life has taught me its importance even if I have few miles to cover in mastering its art.

Health & delving into its science has come as another big reminder.

Am not sure how proud & happy the 10 year old Misha would be by looking at Today’s Misha but she would sure be fascinated at the journey travelled so far by her older version with so many artefacts that were beyond the imagination of her younger version. But beyond anything she will pat today’s Misha’s back that she has managed to be the same honest & simple human being true to herself despite all odds! 100/100 for that πŸ™‚

Lots more to come!

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Current Stage – Consolidation!

This is how I would like to see this stage as – Consolidating my health, work, personality amongst all priorities.

Work – its going rather well so far (touchwood) with UX & Digital Business responsibilities & got an amazing Boss to interact daily with as a friend, mentor, guide.

Health – Solid effort going in here & do not want this to get impacted in any way. Reduced frame-size, increased strength, stamina, daily workout sessions with right set of positive & vibrant people is extremely helpful.

Personality – I have been wanting to become a more calm, controlled, serene, fewer words, more giving, letting go person for some time now. I am glad to say that I do see with time, people, efforts – things are moving in that direction.

Household responsibilities along with eating habits – This was a major cause of worry in my case as I was quite lazy & careless like a (tom) boy towards this. However with time, effort & people again – I have learnt to take care of these things as they are extremely crucial to lead a happy & balanced life. Now I eat, sleep on time – somehow if I can change the food at office – it will be perfect.

Friends/People/Family – With maturity & experience, I have learnt to appreciate the kind of people I want to have around me while keeping others at bay. Gone are the days when I used to get confused among friends, situations & used to find myself gasping for escape. Glad to have found more solace here – Finding my Man is the only gap waiting to be fulfilled.

My startup/business – Having my own Digital Consultancy is what has come as an ideal solution for me – Let us see if I do this or something else. The school + studio + organic farm + yoga retreat house Dream also awaits. Refinement is awaiting & other pieces waiting to fall into place.

Travel/Photography – This is the only spot I feel am not doing 100% justice to given the amount of travel & clicking I used to do till 1 year back when every week I would just take off locally and every 2-3 months some place out. However, this piece is also getting consolidated now by pushing me into doing only great memorable trips solo or with 1 or 2 people I really wish to be with. Am sure my clicking results have grown & will continue to amaze everyone!

Amen!

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I wish to be..

I wish to be a fewer words person…
Even if there are umpteen feelings, emotions rising inside…

I want to be balanced & serene & softer/mellower…
Even if any situation demands me to have reactions…

I want to be womanlike graceful & aesthetically class apart…
Even if people around me fail to appreciate it same time..

Wish to be far more travelled, exposed to different people/cultures,
Even if it takes far more effort & time to make plans & execute them..

I wish to be with People who let me be and at the same time inspire me to grow..
Even if it means exploring wide & waiting for right selection while being without one/few…

I wish to be self sufficient emotionally, financially, socially..& feel confident, assured about it..
Even if it means telling yourself to be strong every day,moment!

(Dedicated towards all the women in daily lives who achieve this consistently knowingly & KungFu Panda 3 which thought once again to have belief in all the goodness around)12799105_10153943476592731_8114143395436703172_n

Writing After Long.. Carol made me

Or so it seems…

Lazying on a weekend & spending time with yourself at leisure & peace is one of the best gifts time has to offer I believe. Doing nothing is extremely important to make you do great at something!

Rooney Mara – the lady who impressed me over last 3-4 days after I saw Carol. I saw the movie as someone at work recommended me it to be a great watch but a huge snub by Award ceremonies.So I decided to give it a watch interested to know what on earth this ‘snub’ really is?
I loved the movie every bit so much that I have seen it 2 times more in bits & pieces (the rushing me..) and plan on watching it more. Its that feeling where you have experienced the best in cinema & everything else seems ordinary or dreary in front of it [withdrawal symptoms].

What I loved was the purity of love shown in a story – how flowing, natural, poetic, beautiful, enigmatic, poignant, justified it was to see two woman falling in love with each other & wanting to be together.Β Nothing was rushed into or forced into – everything seemed right even going against the law of that times, breaking homes, etc.
When you see something out of blue that makes you wanna have a better life or more truthful life or more love in your life, be a better person, gives you more perspective & hence it makes you sit up & delve into more layer by layer.
Same is happening to me as a process.

Cate Blanchett is a legend in her rights – she’s one of the few Hollywood actresses who has given great movies consistently in different genres & established herself as a sure shot powerhouse.
But who in the world is Rooney Mara, was my basic question – I had heard about her previous roles in Dragon girl and social network but not taken note (my loss), but she has won me over so much that I wanna be like her in many ways now.

Its stupid but I love how she communicates effortlessly without doing much, I love how honest she is on camera without being overpowering in any way. She seems nice, indifferent, intelligent, so evenly balanced, steady, non judgemental, sweet, innocent with warmth for right moments. How enigmatic & poignant she is is another great detail. I do feel I can be a lot better person by emulating her more in my life.

Thank You Carol, Cate Blanchett, Toddy Hynes & Rooney Mara!

So I hope to remember to emulate Rooney a lot more by speaking less & observing more & letting my work do the talking.

My Wishlist for one of my States & its People

I get asked about my loyalties to which of the indian states a lot – as I have spent 13 years in U.P, 8 in Gujarat, 2 in Jharkhand, 3 in Maharashtra, 2 in Delhi, 1 in Karnataka majorly. My name is non – Indian, My surname is non detrimental in terms of nailing my origin state. My way of speaking Hindi tells people I am from North, my thoughts & lifestyle from West – so people get confused and I enjoy it as I like calling myself Indian as an identity and that’s it.

To answer the question in response to their curiosity – I tend to divide the response between North and West depending on who is asking the question and in what relevance. I sometimes also tend to explain my family background to some and how I am truly Indian in terms of my loyalties to a state.

However, if there is one State I genuinely wish to grow & come out from its old tittering historical chains – it is my state of birth and ancestors – U.P. This state was the battleground of Independence struggle, even Mahabharat, Ramayan are based here, from cultural, historical, political standpoint – I do not think any state can match U.P.’s relevance.

And it is sad to see its state in shatters – I do not have to go very far to understand it. I have toured multiple states for education, work, sports and U.P. stands out in terms of its potential of resources, population, relevance but the lifestyle, living conditions, infrastructure, facilities, law & order, women’s security, revenue generation, industrial development being far behind from other states.

The political aspects has not helped however if I have to blame one thing then I will blame the People living here themselves. Be it the man, woman, kid, elderly – they all seem to have happily accepted their grim state of affairs and love being not optimistic about future. My parents always pushed me to do well in studies however I am sure apart from that they did not have much recommendations on what does good things in life mean. 99% people I have met here do not understand the meaning of a good lifestyle, a relaxed, healthy, smiling, optimistic, quality, modernly equipped lifestyle.
They tend to somehow believe that being depressed, emotional, old school is the way ahead. I wish they will change.

Lastly and most importantly, I wish the men of this state to understand the real meaning of machoism, chauvinism and give space, respect & equal importance to women in their lives. I wish for the girls in this state to be able to achieve what they dream for and are not given any less opportunity than boys or kids of other states. (HeforShe)

The Importance of Clarity!

A lot of problems in my life has been solved via having some short & long term perspective basing on what you want. It is a funny process about how one gets his/her own clarity about one wants. It involves about 35% focus on what you want, 40% focus on where you are and remaining 25% focus on where have you come from.
Allow me to describe more here :

  1. 35% Focus on where you see yourself, doing what, with which kind of people, things, feeling what, where, etc. etc. Detail it as much possible – on paper, in your mind. It is aligned to the theory of “The Secret” which says about universe talk and it will grant your wishes if you are clear about what you want and ask for it consistently enough. [Future]
  2. 40% Focus on where you are, how you are, what are your strengths, weaknesses, limitations, possibilities, etc. etc. It is about the concept of Yoga – self awareness and as per my most critical exercise which 99.99% people fail to do correctly. They have misconceptions about themselves and their surroundings and hence are not able to understand what to do next. I feel this is the root/foundation/basis from where you can grow.
    You have to be well placed on what you are, how you are and absolutely comfortable, at peace with it. [Present]
  3. 25% focus on where you were and where you come from – Your habits are hard to die and especially with increasing age when you happen to have full awareness and perspective. Your approach, way of working, personality, way of talking, mental strengths, comfort level with people, etc. are things which you carry with yourself wherever you go and they take alot of time and effort in changing. Some conscious effort and dedication can bring a lot of results.
    But to achieve what you wish to achieve you have to connect the dots from behind to understand where you have reached so far. [Past]

I generally follow this approach before making any important decision – personally or work wise with the luxury of time provided. Hope some of you find merit in it to encapsulate and share your experiences.

Few thoughts for nurturing Startup Talent..!

While the whole euphoria around startups, funding, techie demand salary hike is great – I also hear a few voices trying to make some sense of the whole noise. This noise is great almost like RocknRoll, a new culture emission – but how disrupting it can be in an undesirable way also need to be assessed and addressed. So these voices need to be heard and make sense of.

Am all for startups especially technology startups – I did my Btech & MBA with some %of thoughts over starting my own business someday. This phase where people are leaving their corporate jobs for startups is quite encouraging.
Though there are 90-95% of such people who have a sound financial backing in the form of their parents, spouse, savings, etc. So it is a jump but more of a calculated jump which again am not against but just trying to break the myth of the whole daring concept being so great.

Some of them are doing great in terms of generating employment, new business models, creating new desired customized roles, serving customers at large, etc. even though profits remain far fetched.
However I want to draw attention to two aspects which have repetitively been discussed lately :

  • Food startups going a bust including other Rocket ventures : We have all read about the story of Foodpanda, Eatlo, Freshmenu as well Jabong hitting rock bottom. What do you think went wrong here exactly?
  • Housing, Tinyowl forced to cut down team sizes in 3 figures : What do you think happens to these fresh kids and their families? How do they feel about startups, founders and these companies?

These two points are some waterfall developments to what a lot of people have felt while working with in these startups including myself.

I again want to reiterate if I have haven’t – the learning is great almost exponential, the ownership is bigger than ever before, the possibilities of doing so many things even better.
But at what cost? This needs to be analysed well by everyone before joining the wagon – if you are ready to pay any cost including health, wealth, family, career then yes please do try this. It is a RISK/GAMBLE – how well you will come out from it is driven a lot by your personal credentials.

Startups just should not aim to get bigger with stories and words, words, words. That is all the fancy stuff that needs to be ignored even by the puniest minds.

Startups become companies when they are more mature, sustainable, process oriented, long lasting, consistent and above all encompassing.Their decisions impact economy and societies at large – this fact can not be ignored and when startups start behaving in this acceptable fashion they shall be deemed SUCCESSFUL.

Right now including the biggies are just trying to be one!

My concern though 0 with the founders (as they will definitely end up earning loads), is a lot for the crowd who are getting pulled towards it simply for words like startup, e-commerce, etc. Time to Open Your eyes!

Weak Moments..

I think they come and go..
When they come you feel weak.. ofcourse πŸ˜€ (Duh!) and vulnerable, unfortunate, loser, etc. [Basically all that you should not be feeling normally..]

But when they go..you feel stupid enough to feel something like this.. you tell yourself please don’t ever think like this again.. Focus on the right & be strong πŸ™‚

That’s true.. and we do try and be the best we can to sail through every moment like a winner! But it is also important to LIVE every moment as it is..
Open the mysteries of Life in its most beautiful form..
Exhilarate at every WOW moment..
Giggle at everything silly..
Smile at the innocent..
Support the weaker..
Raise your voice when you see something wrong..
Be humble..polite..smiling & non expecting.. πŸ™‚ (How much can I thank Naush for saying this again & again..)
Be creative…
Travel..meet new people… try different cuisines.. experience different cultures.. !!

Let us keep taking right steps towards being honest to ourselves so justice is done..!

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