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Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it 🙂

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

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What & Who I wanted to be as a kid..

Looking back 20-25 years back into my mind palace of the younger me – just for fun or to just check how far I have arrived in the true/correct direction, I do not feel very different or overwhelmed in any happy/sad way.

I remember as a 10 year old wanting to be good, I wanted to excel, compete & come first in Sports, Theatre, painting, studies, being loved, looking smart, etc. etc.
So yeah wanting to be best in short!

As I grew & figured out a way to do graduation, PG, job – I realised different meanings of being best or successful or happy – they were a lot more Convoluted & Grey! I also realised the importance of having different perspectives & respecting all while peacefully keeping your point of view or beliefs without hurting others.

I learnt to bring a lot more from your inner self not just in terms of physical strength, talents, mental capability but something bigger & eternal – your INNER SELF which is difficult to describe & explain but the one who connects to it & listens to it always is a WINNER throughout. I realised it is more important to give than to receive, that one has to ultimately LetGo everything for everything to eventually come back to him/her.

I learnt that it is critical to be more positive, warm, smiling, energetic, motivated, friendly everyday basis & keep your darkness/distractions/sadness/confusions at bay. The few questions that tend to keep honking will get answered on its own.

I realised happily that there is so much beauty in this world to explore via music, food, places, photography, dance, movies, people, art, architecture, history, etc. etc. They are like museums to go & take a walk & come back feeling so much better & learned.

Most importantly I have learned the value of Patience – of having an endless supply of it in all times – good & bad. The ones I love & admire have abundance of it & have benefitted from it time & again. Life has taught me its importance even if I have few miles to cover in mastering its art.

Health & delving into its science has come as another big reminder.

Am not sure how proud & happy the 10 year old Misha would be by looking at Today’s Misha but she would sure be fascinated at the journey travelled so far by her older version with so many artefacts that were beyond the imagination of her younger version. But beyond anything she will pat today’s Misha’s back that she has managed to be the same honest & simple human being true to herself despite all odds! 100/100 for that 🙂

Lots more to come!

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Current Stage – Consolidation!

This is how I would like to see this stage as – Consolidating my health, work, personality amongst all priorities.

Work – its going rather well so far (touchwood) with UX & Digital Business responsibilities & got an amazing Boss to interact daily with as a friend, mentor, guide.

Health – Solid effort going in here & do not want this to get impacted in any way. Reduced frame-size, increased strength, stamina, daily workout sessions with right set of positive & vibrant people is extremely helpful.

Personality – I have been wanting to become a more calm, controlled, serene, fewer words, more giving, letting go person for some time now. I am glad to say that I do see with time, people, efforts – things are moving in that direction.

Household responsibilities along with eating habits – This was a major cause of worry in my case as I was quite lazy & careless like a (tom) boy towards this. However with time, effort & people again – I have learnt to take care of these things as they are extremely crucial to lead a happy & balanced life. Now I eat, sleep on time – somehow if I can change the food at office – it will be perfect.

Friends/People/Family – With maturity & experience, I have learnt to appreciate the kind of people I want to have around me while keeping others at bay. Gone are the days when I used to get confused among friends, situations & used to find myself gasping for escape. Glad to have found more solace here – Finding my Man is the only gap waiting to be fulfilled.

My startup/business – Having my own Digital Consultancy is what has come as an ideal solution for me – Let us see if I do this or something else. The school + studio + organic farm + yoga retreat house Dream also awaits. Refinement is awaiting & other pieces waiting to fall into place.

Travel/Photography – This is the only spot I feel am not doing 100% justice to given the amount of travel & clicking I used to do till 1 year back when every week I would just take off locally and every 2-3 months some place out. However, this piece is also getting consolidated now by pushing me into doing only great memorable trips solo or with 1 or 2 people I really wish to be with. Am sure my clicking results have grown & will continue to amaze everyone!

Amen!

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I wish to be..

I wish to be a fewer words person…
Even if there are umpteen feelings, emotions rising inside…

I want to be balanced & serene & softer/mellower…
Even if any situation demands me to have reactions…

I want to be womanlike graceful & aesthetically class apart…
Even if people around me fail to appreciate it same time..

Wish to be far more travelled, exposed to different people/cultures,
Even if it takes far more effort & time to make plans & execute them..

I wish to be with People who let me be and at the same time inspire me to grow..
Even if it means exploring wide & waiting for right selection while being without one/few…

I wish to be self sufficient emotionally, financially, socially..& feel confident, assured about it..
Even if it means telling yourself to be strong every day,moment!

(Dedicated towards all the women in daily lives who achieve this consistently knowingly & KungFu Panda 3 which thought once again to have belief in all the goodness around)12799105_10153943476592731_8114143395436703172_n

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More thoughts on my last Facebook post..

About a month back I had put up a Facebook post about which I feel very strongly towards however to majority it is a touche` or tentative subject on which they do not share their honest views openly which I understand.
The post was regarding how most of my school, engineering, MBA friends end up abroad (mostly USA) and how other people here also appreciate their lifestyles more than India.
I remember it was based on my interactions with friends, their posts on social media and their in general perception about living in India.

Though I have to admit that there are others like me who are fighting it out here for logical practical work reasons and not just emotional reasons which I truly appreciate. Especially the entrepreneurs who are daily trying to make something new despite challenges are my favourite.

I thought that it is important I describe myself more here and share my viewpoints in hindsight so I can be understood where am coming from.

I do agree that a lot of recent Indian growth, development, investments, revolutions of sorts be it retail, IT, telecom, internet, e-commerce, startup culture is inspired from western stories. The learning, consumer insights, equipments developed in there have helped our adoption easier and faster.
I also truly appreciate how western market has attracted some great talent from worldwide and also appreciated them lately with so many non first-gen Americans becoming leaders of best brands.

However, it is the general hoard or the trend that gets created of every engineer, MBA or even a girl after marriage to end up in USA which I find difficult to fathom.
This is unhealthy and not required to be appreciated/encouraged blindly for sure.

India has been independent only for 68 years after 200 odd years of foreign enslavement. Even for 100 years before that (mostly after Akbar & Maratha rule ended) India has not been very assertive about its power and growth. While the world saw so many revolutions based on social, economic, political, ideological, cultural, scientific reasons – India was not allowed even a window view inside it. We were made to suffer, struggle by our non appointed rulers & guests in the name of religion, culture, poverty.

It took America also 200+ years to become an economic leader pushed by 1st and 2nd world wars when Europe damaged itself beyond repair.
India shall gain that position on the basis of its human talent(academics), manpower, young population, pro technology society and spirituality too shall play an important role. It is imperative that we learn from America’s & other Western world’s mistakes & don’t end up screwing out society like theirs. We can definitely do away with their non-human touch, almost no concern for family concepts, too much commercialism in everything.

Somehow I feel positive, it could be as our government is trying its best to make India appear as the centre of investments and talent and we are the only country that can achieve double digits growth from here on.

I love my country and I will try my level best to make it the best – nobody is taking that from me, even the best guy in the world.. He will have to be based here!

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Dear Women- do not give in!

That’s the word.. Do not ever give in!

Its tough being a woman as you are told, u heard, u feel, etc. But it is tough being anyone and they just learn to be themselves with the same gutso.

So you might be sidelined more, you might be leched at daily, you might be expected to give up everything for the sake of your family, it must be physiologically tougher for you, you might not have that many same gender idols to look at, etc.etc. but still do not give up!!
Always remember that for any situation and any person be it the celebrity or a poor man on platform, it requires extra effort and the zeal to get through.
The answer that you need to ask yourself at the end of everything is that who are you and what do you want?

There is a way around everything, you have to just go and pound on it.

Do not wait for the govt to create quota for you, or the companies to create special work profile for you. Be a leader, do not procrastinate, do not wait for others approvals.. Just believe in yourself and go for it. You shall discover your mojo on your own!

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Yoga & Me

Understanding of the benefits of Yoga directly happened to me quite late in life in 2014 when I joined Yoga classes to fight work pressure & as a form of physical exercise plus relaxation.

However, i have always been a sports person since the age of 5 which meant a lot of cardio, physical exercise, stretching. So I was doing floor exercises as a part of physical education & sports however as I learnt later these are a part of Yoga routine. Over the years I also learnt another very important tool of self-connect which was meditation. For an anxious & impatient person like me, it proved to be a best friend.

Somewhere I was convinced of the power of both – sports & meditation in providing a wholesome mental & physical health enhancement.
Yoga is the exact answer to both these important tools & somewhere its impact if practiced regularly with dedication is something to be seen to believe.

I started doing it in July 2014 & have learnt a lot through it – most importantly the fact that it is important to have a grip over one’s mind & life. Also it is important to slow things down & spend more effort in doing them properly – something on the lines of “focussing on your karma with no eye on the expected results”.

Moreover, the biggest benefit was that I have not suffered from common cold, fever, influenza for last 1 year – this has never happened before. It is all thanks to the breathing exercises & hence clearing my sinus, lungs to certain extent. Thank You Yoga & Kanika a lot for this.

Another beautiful thing happened through collaborating learning of Yoga along with that of Bhagvad Geeta. Somewhere you are able to appreciate the learnings of the old & brave more if you practice Yoga.

On the International Day for Yoga on 21st June, I hope & wish that more & more people appreciate the benefits of Yoga in its true form rather than just taking as a routine, exercise. Though if you just practice it blindly then also it will result in something good only. True benefit of Yoga is when you do each & every stretch, take each & every breath while putting all the focus of each cell of your body into that particular effort.

In America, China – people have taken Yoga to another level by adapting it fantastically well in the daily modern lives through Yoga parks, Yoga parlours, street events. India & especially its youngsters need to appreciate it same way too.

I am happy that I did Yoga & can talk about its benefits, hope it only multiplies.