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Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it ­čÖé

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

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I wish to be..

I wish to be a fewer words person…
Even if there are umpteen feelings, emotions rising inside…

I want to be balanced & serene & softer/mellower…
Even if any situation demands me to have reactions…

I want to be womanlike graceful & aesthetically class apart…
Even if people around me fail to appreciate it same time..

Wish to be far more travelled, exposed to different people/cultures,
Even if it takes far more effort & time to make plans & execute them..

I wish to be with People who let me be and at the same time inspire me to grow..
Even if it means exploring wide & waiting for right selection while being without one/few…

I wish to be self sufficient emotionally, financially, socially..& feel confident, assured about it..
Even if it means telling yourself to be strong every day,moment!

(Dedicated towards all the women in daily lives who achieve this consistently knowingly & KungFu Panda 3 which thought once again to have belief in all the goodness around)12799105_10153943476592731_8114143395436703172_n

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Writing After Long.. Carol made me

Or so it seems…

Lazying on a weekend & spending time with yourself at leisure & peace is one of the best gifts time has to offer I believe. Doing nothing is extremely important to make you do great at something!

Rooney Mara – the lady who impressed me over last 3-4 days after I saw Carol. I saw the movie as someone at work recommended me it to be a great watch but a huge snub by Award ceremonies.So I decided to give it a watch interested to know what on earth this ‘snub’ really is?
I loved the movie every bit so much that I have seen it 2 times more in bits & pieces (the rushing me..) and plan on watching it more. Its that feeling where you have experienced the best in cinema & everything else seems ordinary or dreary in front of it [withdrawal symptoms].

What I loved was the purity of love shown in a story – how flowing, natural, poetic, beautiful, enigmatic, poignant, justified it was to see two woman falling in love with each other & wanting to be together.┬áNothing was rushed into or forced into – everything seemed right even going against the law of that times, breaking homes, etc.
When you see something out of blue that makes you wanna have a better life or more truthful life or more love in your life, be a better person, gives you more perspective & hence it makes you sit up & delve into more layer by layer.
Same is happening to me as a process.

Cate Blanchett is a legend in her rights – she’s one of the few Hollywood actresses who has given great movies consistently in different genres & established herself as a sure shot powerhouse.
But who in the world is Rooney Mara, was my basic question – I had heard about her previous roles in Dragon girl and social network but not taken note (my loss), but she has won me over so much that I wanna be like her in many ways now.

Its stupid but I love how she communicates effortlessly without doing much, I love how honest she is on camera without being overpowering in any way. She seems nice, indifferent, intelligent, so evenly balanced, steady, non judgemental, sweet, innocent with warmth for right moments. How enigmatic & poignant she is is another great detail. I do feel I can be a lot better person by emulating her more in my life.

Thank You Carol, Cate Blanchett, Toddy Hynes & Rooney Mara!

So I hope to remember to emulate Rooney a lot more by speaking less & observing more & letting my work do the talking.

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My Wishlist for one of my States & its People

I get asked about my loyalties to which of the indian states a lot – as I have spent 13 years in U.P, 8 in Gujarat, 2 in Jharkhand, 3 in Maharashtra, 2 in Delhi, 1 in Karnataka majorly. My name is non – Indian, My surname is non detrimental in terms of nailing my origin state. My way of speaking Hindi tells people I am from North, my thoughts & lifestyle from West – so people get confused and I enjoy it as I like calling myself Indian as an identity and that’s it.

To answer the question in response to their curiosity – I tend to divide the response between North and West depending on who is asking the question and in what relevance. I sometimes also tend to explain my family background to some and how I am truly Indian in terms of my loyalties to a state.

However, if there is one State I genuinely wish to grow & come out from its old tittering historical chains – it is my state of birth and ancestors – U.P. This state was the battleground of Independence struggle, even Mahabharat, Ramayan are based here, from cultural, historical, political standpoint – I do not think any state can match U.P.’s relevance.

And it is sad to see its state in shatters – I do not have to go very far to understand it. I have toured multiple states for education, work, sports and U.P. stands out in terms of its potential of resources, population, relevance but the lifestyle, living conditions, infrastructure, facilities, law & order, women’s security, revenue generation, industrial development being far behind from other states.

The political aspects has not helped however if I have to blame one thing then I will blame the People living here themselves. Be it the man, woman, kid, elderly – they all seem to have happily accepted their grim state of affairs and love being not optimistic about future. My parents always pushed me to do well in studies however I am sure apart from that they did not have much recommendations on what does good things in life mean. 99% people I have met here do not understand the meaning of a good lifestyle, a relaxed, healthy, smiling, optimistic, quality, modernly equipped lifestyle.
They tend to somehow believe that being depressed, emotional, old school is the way ahead. I wish they will change.

Lastly and most importantly, I wish the men of this state to understand the real meaning of machoism, chauvinism and give space, respect & equal importance to women in their lives. I wish for the girls in this state to be able to achieve what they dream for and are not given any less opportunity than boys or kids of other states. (HeforShe)

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1Year of Pooja Sharma as Draupadi in Star Plus Mahabharat

I have been quite a devoted fan of Pooja Sharma as Draupadi, Star Plus Mahabharat, Krishna & many other characters from the tele serial.. The tele serial coz it helped me understand myself and situations around me, my objectives in life better with more clarity and confidence.. Pooja Sharma coz she gave me an actress on tele series to appreciate I think in a long time..

She came out as a professional who was confident yet humble in her first job, extremely pleasing to look at plus alot to learn from.. She came across as a today’s girl/lady who we all are and is quite simple, down to earth yet professional about her job.. Plus how brilliant a performer she is about a job which she was doing for the first time and how brilliantly she adapted despite it being a mythological character that today’s people run away from..

She played a character which is well established in people’s hearts and minds with various misconceptions and false stories. Yet she came out a winner by establishing the character as strong, angry, focussed, righteous, dutiful, devoted to Krishna, loving, caring, smiling… Above all, she played the role with a lot of grace, poise… the effort showed be it in terms of the heavy jewellery, costumes she wore and carried off, the number of hours spent in getting ready for the role…the chaste sanskrit laden Hindi she had to speak…

She gave women a strong representation in the tele series and made herself an actress and a character to remember in times forever… I wish & hope that she goes on to do alot more great roles ahead and gets all the happiness in the world…

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Neerja Bhanot… a heart felt salute !

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You shall be definitely one of those I would wanna meet when I come up there! One day we all have to.. how honourably we live, what difference we make towards lives of others.. how well we live is most important!
You did your bit extremely well – equally or better than Bhagat Singh or Gandhiji if I might say..

Courage, Commitment & Compassion – the 3 words companies/institutions try to imbibe for hundreds of years! You showed in a span of 17 hours…

There have been heroes before/after you but none I can recall have lived the way you did and has made me think so much – wonderful student, daughter, sister and above all a committed professional..
In short everything, middle class girls like me aspire to be and become.. but do we go to the extent to ensure we cover that extra mile..
I hope I do when the moment calls for it.. in wisdom and righteousness..

Am sorry that I was ignorant about your achievements till now..
How minuscule my life appears after seeing your mammoth achievements..
You did what only heroes or rather superheroes do..
(4 points – cautioning the pilots, being a calm mind to take care of passengers, presence of mind to hide american passports, when they open fired – you made way for people to rush out and died saving 3 young kids!)

Comparing what have I done in my professional life so far – tried to give my best to help customers, distributors out, earn crores for my company, tried to develop digital solutions..Tried to come out as a compassionate person..
But I have not done something outstanding….!

God is fair, Life is zero sum game to ensure we get what we deserve! Am sure you got and will get more than you deserve..!

Amen!