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Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it 🙂

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

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Some Blabber More..

Last night dinner with my cousin.. a few thoughts came up, which I have been thinking a lot lately for self improvement, became clearer & stronger further :

  • Confidence to look inside by being objective came from doing decently well at WORK – which is probably not Ideal or recommended but in my case it had to be via Work because it plays an extremely important role in my life.
  • Piush had alot to do with giving this confidence & then mentoring me to look further inside to become a better person – though his recommendations were from work aspects but its not surprising that exactly same qualities are required by me in current life – To be Analytical, Amiable 🙂 always..
  • Sneha’s constant response to my blabbers, traits, behaviours, words were more than helpful – Probably I am indebted to her for Life for this. I used to always think that am high on empathy, concern for others & outward looking while honestly I was only being selfish in all my pursuits by only expressing what I felt was right while ACTUALLY NOT realising what the other person is saying or wanting to say or means or feels. This has been a revelation of sorts to be equally if not more concerned about what the other person is saying, feeling, thinking, wanting.
  • Probably all my relationships have gone wrong at some points coz of my constant need to control & looking inward only – Mac, Rahul, Appy, Shweta Di, Nakul are a few I can think FirstHand.
  • Am not very good at Letting Go! It comes from Impatience, not trusting others to do the Right, not giving space – COMPLETE NO NO!
  • I was not very good at having difficult conversations – but have to learn the art of having a difficult conversation in a calm & peaceful way.
  • I did fear losing others and myself a lot – majorly Fear was making all the decisions which is not the Right way always! 

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Zingography : Tech/Product/UX/StartUp Update # 5

I have chosen a subject very close to my heart & mind since long …

“SUSTAINABLE CREATIVITY…”

I personally feel Creativity is great & has to be nurtured.. esp for the corporate space where one is chasing numbers, KPIs, KRAs & hardly has time to think consumers..

So one has to think Creative & Scale while at work or else in my humble opinion you are just not adding value!

I understand the importance of Business Philosophies, Business Visions, Business Leadership Styles with the exposure so far & lately have been reading a lot upon them.

But somewhere my mind tells me that only when one is creating something new & is able to convince internal, external stakeholders for the same does one take one’s company forward and via that the whole society/generation forward.

Let me give some example, Gandhi for all the controversial discussions around creating an emotional blackmail/socialism model was at least able to create something called AHIMSA that is being re-called by the global generations much later.. even if it is debated which is the whole purpose!

Similarly Invention of Electricity, Revolutions, Renaissance have seemed to be extremely tough brainstorming times but have been successful in pushing the society forward..

Since Ancient times, every Kingdom also has tried to nurture the art, dance, creativity, etc. for the free flow of ideas, thoughts, talents, etc. across geographies, caste, creed, religion but without beating the overall purpose of the Preamble, Constitution or Administration! So Welfare & growth of people first however give them a source of relief, outwardness, dream for a better lifestyle.

Even in our Indian Society –  we have the majority who is inspired by the Bollywood & its glamour which is not great always…  but point is anything new, disruptive always catches the eye & makes people inspired, think, talk, maybe even act upon (sadly the last one is toughest yet most critical).

I also feel, in a country like India with a population of 1.3 Billion & life dazzling, bazzling through roads & streets or now digitally on mobile phones – ideas emerge by the micro second, many repeat, many overlapping, many spoken, many hidden, majority waste 😉 a lot waiting to be implemented..

My personal Bias is towards the Rural Youth as I feel they see the root cause & really wish to resolve it – just need to be guided & supported to resolve it…

If somehow a Design Lab can connect with this Rural Thinking Lab – we have a SURE SHOT WINNER in hand ! Godrej has been able to develop one, time shall tell what kind of products & solutions come out of it.

Amen! GodSpeed!

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A sense of…

  • Humour
  • Good Food
  • Good Dressing
  • Travelling
  • People
  • Conversations
  • Values
  • Habits
  • Etiquettes
  • Health/Sports
  • Art
  • Design
  • Music
  • Books/Poetry
  • Maths (yes)
  • Science (Again yes)
  • Gadgets (Post 2000 effect)
  • Digital Imagery (Post 2010 effect)
  • Emotional Intelligence (Very Critical)
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A routine can kill you out.. till you outsmart it!

One should be smart enough… not to fall in the trap…

The indications are always there to get into the same scenario… You should learn to dodge it before you fall victim to it..

Job mundane is supposed to make you dull, boring, unexciting, think nothing new… Esp a desk job where one doesn’t meet new people, doesn’t get to travel to new places… It is most natural to feel BOXED!

However, because you are smart enough to know that this is most natural to be happening… You should be smart to dodge it before hand…
Mix things up… meet your friends… spend time doing what you Love, what inspires you, draw & re-draw your priority sheet… discuss the same with 100 people… take learnings from 1000 others… Read books…
Most importantly – become a better person, more calm, cool, focussed, in control of your emotions…

Become the best version of yourself & remove all your irritants…

In my case :
Get rid of your impatience… Worrying habit, procrastination, comparing…taking work tension home… Overthinking… Living in the past, being confused…having expectations, confrontations…Responding to negativity.. non reacting, holding on…

So best version of me is CONFIDENT, PATIENT, COOL, SMILING, POLITE, LOVING, NON EXPECTING, INTELLIGENT, SMART…GREAT@LETTING GO 🙂

That’ll be good enough things to start with!

 

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All time Favourite Movies

My All Time Favourite English Movies : Am not a huge fan of B&W & Pre 80s era in terms of English Content & have all my favourite ones from modern times majorly. Pls note Big names, Oscars or any other awards also have no impact on my choices.
It is simply based on the fact of their impact on me & how well they have aged with times for me to go back revisit them time & again.

  • Shwashank Redemption
  • A few Good Men
  • Kill Bill 1 & 2
  • Harry Potter Series
  • LOTR Series
  • Marvel Series
  • Inception
  • Dark Knight Series
  • Matrix Series

My All Time Favourite Respite Movies : These are my secret crush kinda movies which I watch when low & seeking optimism in darkness!

  • Notting Hill
  • Sleepless in Seattle
  • Lake House
  • Two Weeks Notice
  • Day & Knight
  • Jerry Mcguire

My All Time Favourite Hindi Movies : I have a highly selective choice here as I don’t buy the general drama, masala or even the romcom movies of Hindi Cinema. Stars apart, content & the overall impact life of the movies on me is what makes me decide my choice.

  • Masoom 1981
  • Golmal 1980
  • Other Hrishikesh Mukherji Movies – Chupke Chupke, Bawarchi, Khubsoorat
  • Gulzar Movies – Aandhi, Mausam
  • Rang De Basanti
  • Swades
  • Taare Zameen Par
  • Recent women centric movies – English Vinglish, Queen, Kahaani, Piku, Tanu Weds Manu Returns

If am allowed to add Sherlock & F.R.I.E.N.D.S. TV series to the list – as no viewing for me is complete without them.