How My Media Aversion Has Helped Me!

It was a hard thought decision but something I should have done long back to be a much STRONGER & MORE CONFIDENT Human Being! Yes You Heard It, Long Back!!

I stopped quite a lot of Media Inflows towards me (my ears, eyes, most importantly Mind), in order to do that I did the following :

  • Stopped Reading All the Media websites & Apps (TOI was banned long back, NDTV, IndiaToday, IBN, etc.)
  • Removed TV Subscription (Best Decision Ever)
  • Shortened Facebook time to <5mins/week & diverting the remaining time to reading, linkedin, twitter, medium on filtered interests/subjects.
  • Forming my Viewpoints towards everything based on my own Research (well judged resources + Authentic sources) rather than word services of others
  • Adjudging the Media, Film world, Cricketers in my life what they are – PRESSTITUTES!
  • Avoiding all so called friends/influencers who promoted the Above or spoke mostly about the same

This happened as a result of above :

  • The filtered content was self approved & self adjudged
  • Got more time to do my research & form my own opinions based on topics that I was curious about, which is much better than being involuntarily educated at topics of no interest or motivation
  • Found & Relied on much informed company of intellectuals & common believers
  • I could only focus on what I WANTED FROM MYSELF !! I COULD SEE MYSELF AS A CLEAN SLATE & JUDGE MY BREATHE, MY ACTIONS, MY WAVES, RAYS, ENERGY IN A COMPLETE IMPARTIAL LIGHT
  • PM, Startups, Tech, VCs, Design, Statistics, World Politics & Trade, Travel, Clicking, Values, Ethics, History, Human Psychology, Sports (Quality), Social Entrepreneur – these are subjects that I know am not going to leave till the end of my breath! So happy to have discovered them as interests, serious hobbies, passions.
  • I can see my Vision & Dreams alot more clearly & am much more determined than ever to achieve them by building small blocks & gathering people around.

Hope it helps others as well!! Peace for All, Amen.

 

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Some Life Changing Moments

Writing some Life Changing Moments, Good & Bad :

  • Apart from coming into the Earth – being born in India, in an educated middle class family, in Northern Part of India, living in a thriving industrial engineers colony with families of different backgrounds, kids from different schools, different aspirations, mindsets
  • Since it was a partially Joint Family – so influence on my GrandMom & relatives being stronger
  • Admission into a Convent & adapting to its requirements – English speaking, strictness for discipline, competition for appreciation, emphasis on being a Leader
  • Playing with more boys in the colony -> resulting into being easily exploited & for no fault of mine
  • Exposure into Badminton Coaching & Theatre Classes – Perhaps the best aspect apart from being Convent Educated
  • Having some great friends like Nishu & Sweta Di for the reasons of mutual appreciation & good quality discussions Only
  • Not being allowed to pursue Badminton on an advanced Level made me quite sad
  • Some great trips to my Maternal Grandparents house – huge bungalow & amazing fruits to enjoy with loads of cousins
  • Moving to Ahmedabad – adapting to new school & friends circle (Uff! – toughness was a new feeling more so for emotional baggage)
  • Tough studies days – exposure to a bigger & developed city life!
  • 10th & 12th Board exams – > BTech admissions (you get exposed to systems & start disliking it there & then)
  • Some new set of people you come across & thinking about your career ahead! (Again UFFF! – This was perhaps one of the Darkest phases 🙂 since I felt everything I have done so far is a waste of everything)
  • Being Introduced to CAT ! <Yippee – 1> Discovered something great! & Totally fell in Love with it & was convinced to do it more & more!
  • XLRI admission & 2 years campus experience – It played a strong role in being who I am & what I hold dear to myself
  • JJMI Internship – Short & Lovely 🙂
  • Tata Stint – was not excited about going there but I think it turned out better than expected! <Travel, Click & Social Circle were found here>
  • Airtel & Snapdeal – They came & went like Firecrackers which shaped my profile for sure but also gave me some unasked pain! Its ok, No Pain so No Gain 🙂
  • Discovering a Permanent Friend in Krishna & Buddha -> Watching Mahabharat & Reading Gita is a natural healing process
  • Current Role Profile – No comments till I move to next role but I will always be thankful for it to give me a chance to build my Product Profile
  • Product Management & UX Discovery – Definitely Yippee -2 Moment as it has given me so much that I wanted to be & do in terms of professional space! I know this will be the path I want to be on & will take me towards my Ultimate Dream Realisations from here!
  • Much of my Travel + Click + Sports (Playing & Watching) + Social Entrepreneurship Moments have given me the Small Joys & Reaffirmations required at different turns of my life! Much Grateful for them
  • How my dependence on my Friends & others has reduced is amazing 🙂 Much more Thankful for that since I know I won’t allow anyone to hurt me emotionally or take advantage of me. How I have learnt to SelfCare & SelfLove & depend on my own instincts gives me the much required strength.
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My two pence on a millenial working professional lifestyle..

I wanted to sort my head firstly & secondly wanted to create a repository for other to follow & me to revisit in later time.

First things first – Trust your instincts & follow your basics : this is the advantage today’s millennials have. They have seen economy liberalization, global brands, better quality education, social media. So one can trust them to make the right decisions for themselves & others. What they lack is the ability to drill & grill + patience. So a millenial who’s based in simple values & is globally well aware is most powerful.

Learn to be polite & humble + respectful

Believe in building things from scratch & do it despite whatever it takes without compromising on your values

Learn to treat disappointments & setbacks at the back of hand deal while working on whatever seems sensible.

Always be well groomed & well spoken of!

Learn to build healthy mutual respect based relationships & not those based on selfish interests, convenience, attraction, money, etc.

Do whatever it takes to keep yourself sane & grounded – good friends & family are all time helpful

Be authentic! Be yourself again whatever it takes…

Celebrity Diarrhoea!

Had to write this to get it out of my system!

These days when the economy is on a sort of stand still & not much movement is happening on the policy decision making after a few biggies like Demonetisation, GST, Jio, Patanjali – it looks like the media especially the Digital Media is hell bent on making someone a Hero & creating content around them! They are making anything around a movie ‘star’ or a cricket ‘star’ a national event & wish everyone involved to be following every hook, step, twitch, bowel movement or what not! Am Sorry! Spare me the least!

When I open my newspaper – I want to read actual news in politics, economics, public policies, education, rural reformation, science or even art, literature. But this celebrity worship syndrome (CWS) that the media seems to be suffering from & want to infect the remaining sane audience is just not cool, so very unhealthy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Celebrity_worship_syndrome

It has reached to the level that am afraid of opening my Google Feed News, Youtube Feed, Various News Channel Feeds, websites – am also sceptical to meet some of my wannabe friends & other immature people, who cannot help but discuss Celebrities & their wonderful lives. How their lives are perfect & how we are made to feel worse. Am sorry again, I refuse to be part of this shanghais! #SpareMe again!

I anyways have started to lose a lot of respect for the internet generation & the Smartphone generation (15-28 yrs old, well provided for the first 3 needs on Hierarchy Pyramid) who seem to be hell bent on only following what looks, sounds, appears “COOL” & have stopped understanding the harsh parts of sacrifice, hardwork, dedication, mental toughness, focus, attention span deficiency! But they are hell bent ambitious & know how to get their work done.

Current Digital Media & this “COOL” generation are a lethal combination who shall take our social, mental, physical, financial, economical sensibilities to a quick down trail very soon! #SpareMe

Human’s Stay on Earth

Have been thinking lately (these thoughts are definitely not based on any recent developments but are based on my observations, interactions, discussions, reading over the past known years).. am quite certain of following views as well :

  • I do not think that Humans were supposed to breed on this planet, this planet was (if) created then was meant for appreciation, wonder, happiness, peace, plentifulness, etc. As story goes Adam n Eve faulted & every one later are bearing the (black) fruits of it!
  • Coming on this earth, in which family, country, religion, etc. are not chosen by anyone. However what one believes, controls, speaks, acts, behaves, etc. are & should be owned by the individual herself/himself. Saying this is how it happens coz of background or circumstances is simply a poor craftsman
  • Now that one has come on this planet & got a life, body, mind, heart – one should make the max use of it to lead a fulfilling life which does not harp on any negativity, demeans others lives, compares, hurts oneself or others, etc.
  • Whatever life one gets – 10/30/50/70 years – one should lead a healthy meaningful life while trying to uplift others around, give hope/faith amongst others. Create & sustain happiness while discarding materialism.
  • In order to achieve this, one is gifted skills/knowledge/awareness which are to be made the most use of to uplift themselves as well as others around them. Acting selfish is going against the basic purpose of this life.

Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it 🙂

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

Some Blabber More..

Last night dinner with my cousin.. a few thoughts came up, which I have been thinking a lot lately for self improvement, became clearer & stronger further :

  • Confidence to look inside by being objective came from doing decently well at WORK – which is probably not Ideal or recommended but in my case it had to be via Work because it plays an extremely important role in my life.
  • Piush had alot to do with giving this confidence & then mentoring me to look further inside to become a better person – though his recommendations were from work aspects but its not surprising that exactly same qualities are required by me in current life – To be Analytical, Amiable 🙂 always..
  • Sneha’s constant response to my blabbers, traits, behaviours, words were more than helpful – Probably I am indebted to her for Life for this. I used to always think that am high on empathy, concern for others & outward looking while honestly I was only being selfish in all my pursuits by only expressing what I felt was right while ACTUALLY NOT realising what the other person is saying or wanting to say or means or feels. This has been a revelation of sorts to be equally if not more concerned about what the other person is saying, feeling, thinking, wanting.
  • Probably all my relationships have gone wrong at some points coz of my constant need to control & looking inward only – Mac, Rahul, Appy, Shweta Di, Nakul are a few I can think FirstHand.
  • Am not very good at Letting Go! It comes from Impatience, not trusting others to do the Right, not giving space – COMPLETE NO NO!
  • I was not very good at having difficult conversations – but have to learn the art of having a difficult conversation in a calm & peaceful way.
  • I did fear losing others and myself a lot – majorly Fear was making all the decisions which is not the Right way always! 

What do I fear most..

I think losing my Optimism, Hope for something Great..

This thought popped up while watching Before Sunset – which happens every time that it makes you think about your own life coz it just touches the chords of your heart so very easily with its simplicity & realism..

I think its truly great to have a great conversation with someone who gets you without making much effort coz you connect at a greater level which is difficult to express in words but still is BEST experienced only through words 🙂

I feel sad about not having met THE ONE but I also feel good about not giving in for mediocre or to social pressure or to almost right ! I know there is nothing like PERFECT but I deserve to at least feel that this is the BEST I can get & can be convinced about giving My Best no matter how Bad it gets ahead!

But I also know for sure – I do not want to endup being sad or bitter or lost or rude or cynical or boring or pessimist or disappointed or dissatisfied! Nothing of those..

I want to be Happy, Satisfied, Raring to Go, Calm, Energetic, Positive & Loved! #GodSpeed #Amen

StartUp Advantages – Found My Solace of Split Personalities!

Startups can be almost like On-ground Battles where warriors (I hope am in this category), soldiers, Army Generals come out with their weapons & unleash their true powers, diplomacies, tactics, strategies to simply come out Winning!

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Everyone has a personality, a background, a history, her/his own talents + pursuits + motivations! Its exciting hence to come out a winner in a place where everyone is not fake!

Personally for me, its extremely acceptable environment because I get to be myself & not pretend to be constrained in chains which is the case with big Corporate Houses so Thank God for Startups for coming in our lives!

I know now some things clearly about myself which I will never compromise for anything/anyone :

  • Am extremely High Energy & Enthusiasm, I thrive in it
  • Am ‘almost’ passionate about my Work – I love living for it if I see a purpose in it else I love focussing on my health, family, friends, travel, photography, shopping, movies, music, etc.
  • I love being clear headed for myself + my loved ones & having simple, clarity oriented people around me who speak well, high, progressive & modern
  • I love being around self motivated, energetic & idea oriented people
  • I love new ideas, new projects
  • I have my own ways of managing things, people & situations and I like keeping it that way – Open to learnings from People I appreciate & Like but should be careful about the latter to not do it too much as well
  • I can’t take bullshit & not very good with managing that – got to working on defining the boundaries again & ensuring both parties honour it fairly
  • I tend to get self critical about my short term goals, long term purpose, even people which at best be avoided – Just #AvoidSocialism at personal level to push a greater purpose

I have also realised post working in StartUps & Corporate world for 7+ years now that the Game is all about Managing People & Yourself Basically. Deliverables, Results & Negotiation Skills, Achievements, KPIs, Projects, Ideas, Success become very subjective & actually more of a result if You manage the former Well !

One more of my recent sure shot finding are about top B-schools in the country having such different cultures of people (and the recent batches have really diluted the value) :

  • XL + IIMC have cooler & people oriented people
  • IIMA have too hard task master oriented people
  • IIMB are too serious, thorough, professional – almost similar breed to ISB
  • Rest are almost similarly inconsequential 😉

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