How My Media Aversion Has Helped Me!

It was a hard thought decision but something I should have done long back to be a much STRONGER & MORE CONFIDENT Human Being! Yes You Heard It, Long Back!!

I stopped quite a lot of Media Inflows towards me (my ears, eyes, most importantly Mind), in order to do that I did the following :

  • Stopped Reading All the Media websites & Apps (TOI was banned long back, NDTV, IndiaToday, IBN, etc.)
  • Removed TV Subscription (Best Decision Ever)
  • Shortened Facebook time to <5mins/week & diverting the remaining time to reading, linkedin, twitter, medium on filtered interests/subjects.
  • Forming my Viewpoints towards everything based on my own Research (well judged resources + Authentic sources) rather than word services of others
  • Adjudging the Media, Film world, Cricketers in my life what they are – PRESSTITUTES!
  • Avoiding all so called friends/influencers who promoted the Above or spoke mostly about the same

This happened as a result of above :

  • The filtered content was self approved & self adjudged
  • Got more time to do my research & form my own opinions based on topics that I was curious about, which is much better than being involuntarily educated at topics of no interest or motivation
  • Found & Relied on much informed company of intellectuals & common believers
  • I could only focus on what I WANTED FROM MYSELF !! I COULD SEE MYSELF AS A CLEAN SLATE & JUDGE MY BREATHE, MY ACTIONS, MY WAVES, RAYS, ENERGY IN A COMPLETE IMPARTIAL LIGHT
  • PM, Startups, Tech, VCs, Design, Statistics, World Politics & Trade, Travel, Clicking, Values, Ethics, History, Human Psychology, Sports (Quality), Social Entrepreneur – these are subjects that I know am not going to leave till the end of my breath! So happy to have discovered them as interests, serious hobbies, passions.
  • I can see my Vision & Dreams alot more clearly & am much more determined than ever to achieve them by building small blocks & gathering people around.

Hope it helps others as well!! Peace for All, Amen.

 

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ZINGOGRAPHY : Tech/Product/UX/Startup Update # 8

Today I wish to compare the startup spaces in Indian & European Context. Those who read this should know that I share this majorly for my own clarity & perspective and if it helps others then great!

Recently, I have been focussing on 3 main things apart from my daily work & travel :

  • Reading a lot about new skill sets essential for PM especially like Deep Learning, Data Mining
  • Linking it with my current Work & Profile as well as Future Roles that I wish to do
  • Collaborating it with other PMs in different sectors/industries/companies

And there are some Key Insights regarding Different Geographical Consumer Tech companies that I have concluded :

  • Focus in Indian Companies (Startups as well as Big Ones) is to scale
  • Focus in European Companies is to understand the consumer behaviour first & sync all departments of technology, data, customer service towards that ONE Customer Proposition/their USP which will help them Succeed while focussing less or almost nothing on others
  • In US Companies, they go for massive funding & their aim is that – once establishing a prototype (more or less that with a short term vision)
  • SEA are replicating Chinese models more or less in terms of consumer personas as well as Tech Propositions
  • MENA regions are going like Indian Conglomerates – slow & cautious for the models that are already well proven for success

Let me also talk about a few skills which are becoming redundant as in they are understood that you will have when you apply for Product Roles :

  • Digital Marketing
  • Product Design & Strategy
  • KPI Metrics Management
  • Project Management
  • P&L Ownership
  • Business Development
  • Hiring & Training

These are the new skills towards which you need to show inclination & an aptitude for – please remember that though these may seem new worlds, their nuances are based in subjects well introduced to us. So let me give the picture complete for better understanding :

  • Machine Learning/AI/Deep Learning : Maths, Statistics, Computer Science for Coding
  • Blockchain : Telecom, Communications, System/Server Integration
  • AR/VR : Electronics, Robotics, Graphic Designing
  • 3D Printing : Biotechnology, Engineering Drawing

Personally I enjoy first 3 a lot & keep looking how it can be valuable in my current scope of work!

Some Life Changing Moments

Writing some Life Changing Moments, Good & Bad :

  • Apart from coming into the Earth – being born in India, in an educated middle class family, in Northern Part of India, living in a thriving industrial engineers colony with families of different backgrounds, kids from different schools, different aspirations, mindsets
  • Since it was a partially Joint Family – so influence on my GrandMom & relatives being stronger
  • Admission into a Convent & adapting to its requirements – English speaking, strictness for discipline, competition for appreciation, emphasis on being a Leader
  • Playing with more boys in the colony -> resulting into being easily exploited & for no fault of mine
  • Exposure into Badminton Coaching & Theatre Classes – Perhaps the best aspect apart from being Convent Educated
  • Having some great friends like Nishu & Sweta Di for the reasons of mutual appreciation & good quality discussions Only
  • Not being allowed to pursue Badminton on an advanced Level made me quite sad
  • Some great trips to my Maternal Grandparents house – huge bungalow & amazing fruits to enjoy with loads of cousins
  • Moving to Ahmedabad – adapting to new school & friends circle (Uff! – toughness was a new feeling more so for emotional baggage)
  • Tough studies days – exposure to a bigger & developed city life!
  • 10th & 12th Board exams – > BTech admissions (you get exposed to systems & start disliking it there & then)
  • Some new set of people you come across & thinking about your career ahead! (Again UFFF! – This was perhaps one of the Darkest phases 🙂 since I felt everything I have done so far is a waste of everything)
  • Being Introduced to CAT ! <Yippee – 1> Discovered something great! & Totally fell in Love with it & was convinced to do it more & more!
  • XLRI admission & 2 years campus experience – It played a strong role in being who I am & what I hold dear to myself
  • JJMI Internship – Short & Lovely 🙂
  • Tata Stint – was not excited about going there but I think it turned out better than expected! <Travel, Click & Social Circle were found here>
  • Airtel & Snapdeal – They came & went like Firecrackers which shaped my profile for sure but also gave me some unasked pain! Its ok, No Pain so No Gain 🙂
  • Discovering a Permanent Friend in Krishna & Buddha -> Watching Mahabharat & Reading Gita is a natural healing process
  • Current Role Profile – No comments till I move to next role but I will always be thankful for it to give me a chance to build my Product Profile
  • Product Management & UX Discovery – Definitely Yippee -2 Moment as it has given me so much that I wanted to be & do in terms of professional space! I know this will be the path I want to be on & will take me towards my Ultimate Dream Realisations from here!
  • Much of my Travel + Click + Sports (Playing & Watching) + Social Entrepreneurship Moments have given me the Small Joys & Reaffirmations required at different turns of my life! Much Grateful for them
  • How my dependence on my Friends & others has reduced is amazing 🙂 Much more Thankful for that since I know I won’t allow anyone to hurt me emotionally or take advantage of me. How I have learnt to SelfCare & SelfLove & depend on my own instincts gives me the much required strength.
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My Time is Yet to Come!

Hence it is important to believe….. With undeterred confidence..

Believe well & strong & in a non – deterring way

Let nothing make you think otherwise!

Do more of things that make you feel wanted, Loved, at peace, balanced.

Be indifferent to wants, desires, expectations, results, what next!

Just focus on doing your best in current moment & leave the rest!

Success/ Failure should be considered the same..

Doing your deed with dedication should be your focus.

Detach yourself from all that is false, just focus on God & your deed

It is important to remind yourself of these small things….

Celebrity Diarrhoea!

Had to write this to get it out of my system!

These days when the economy is on a sort of stand still & not much movement is happening on the policy decision making after a few biggies like Demonetisation, GST, Jio, Patanjali – it looks like the media especially the Digital Media is hell bent on making someone a Hero & creating content around them! They are making anything around a movie ‘star’ or a cricket ‘star’ a national event & wish everyone involved to be following every hook, step, twitch, bowel movement or what not! Am Sorry! Spare me the least!

When I open my newspaper – I want to read actual news in politics, economics, public policies, education, rural reformation, science or even art, literature. But this celebrity worship syndrome (CWS) that the media seems to be suffering from & want to infect the remaining sane audience is just not cool, so very unhealthy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Celebrity_worship_syndrome

It has reached to the level that am afraid of opening my Google Feed News, Youtube Feed, Various News Channel Feeds, websites – am also sceptical to meet some of my wannabe friends & other immature people, who cannot help but discuss Celebrities & their wonderful lives. How their lives are perfect & how we are made to feel worse. Am sorry again, I refuse to be part of this shanghais! #SpareMe again!

I anyways have started to lose a lot of respect for the internet generation & the Smartphone generation (15-28 yrs old, well provided for the first 3 needs on Hierarchy Pyramid) who seem to be hell bent on only following what looks, sounds, appears “COOL” & have stopped understanding the harsh parts of sacrifice, hardwork, dedication, mental toughness, focus, attention span deficiency! But they are hell bent ambitious & know how to get their work done.

Current Digital Media & this “COOL” generation are a lethal combination who shall take our social, mental, physical, financial, economical sensibilities to a quick down trail very soon! #SpareMe

Human’s Stay on Earth

Have been thinking lately (these thoughts are definitely not based on any recent developments but are based on my observations, interactions, discussions, reading over the past known years).. am quite certain of following views as well :

  • I do not think that Humans were supposed to breed on this planet, this planet was (if) created then was meant for appreciation, wonder, happiness, peace, plentifulness, etc. As story goes Adam n Eve faulted & every one later are bearing the (black) fruits of it!
  • Coming on this earth, in which family, country, religion, etc. are not chosen by anyone. However what one believes, controls, speaks, acts, behaves, etc. are & should be owned by the individual herself/himself. Saying this is how it happens coz of background or circumstances is simply a poor craftsman
  • Now that one has come on this planet & got a life, body, mind, heart – one should make the max use of it to lead a fulfilling life which does not harp on any negativity, demeans others lives, compares, hurts oneself or others, etc.
  • Whatever life one gets – 10/30/50/70 years – one should lead a healthy meaningful life while trying to uplift others around, give hope/faith amongst others. Create & sustain happiness while discarding materialism.
  • In order to achieve this, one is gifted skills/knowledge/awareness which are to be made the most use of to uplift themselves as well as others around them. Acting selfish is going against the basic purpose of this life.

Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it 🙂

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

Mithali Raj & Indian Women Cricket Team – A salute!

Who has not been impressed enough with the recent show of our ladies in the Cricket World Cup 2017 with their gallant march to the Finals by taking one world class team after the other down!

They took everyone by surprise with the inexperience in their team & played excellent knocks of 100s & taking multiple 5 wickets especially by Spinners. Indian team looked inspired, motivated & FRESH! They were wanting to go for the Kill & looking to WIN all the time.

Words fail me to impress Mithali Raj who has become a role model for me for sure with her cool headed & non interfering approach, solid knocks & smiling yet confident personality. Her body language exuberates Modesty, Dignity, Mental Strength, Defyness, Eagerness to prove all wrong against all odds.
Her story has impressed me & am sure so are the stories of 14 other girls who have come against various odds in their lives to perform at the big arena & become a world class player! Its not easy & everyone should know that.

In India, women sports is not really looked upon as a career option after so many years of Independence, Education. Though things have changed & we have had some national heroes like Mary Kom, Sania Mirza, Saina Nehwal, Sindhu, PT Usha, Dipa Karmakar, Sakshi Malik recently. But we are nowhere when compared to West & our culture, mindset has to go a long way to change for things on ground to change. Money shall flow, management shall improve if we get more & more acceptance from Society & Families at grass root level.

Perhaps this is the reason why I am so heart-broken at Ladies not winning the Cup. Rest am sure they have done more than their best & have made us so so so Proud while giving us so many moments to cherish & cheer for! Am still rooting for Women IPL to start soon.

Heart goes out to Mithali & Jhulan – am hoping against hope that they will give next World Cup another chance for us as they still have a lot to offer.

Rest am sure, things will change for the better! Amen

http://www.livemint.com/Sports/8W4aiIHSp1cFiiTMO0b44M/Mithali-Raj-and-Co-give-fillip-to-women-and-sports-in-India.html

Some Blabber More..

Last night dinner with my cousin.. a few thoughts came up, which I have been thinking a lot lately for self improvement, became clearer & stronger further :

  • Confidence to look inside by being objective came from doing decently well at WORK – which is probably not Ideal or recommended but in my case it had to be via Work because it plays an extremely important role in my life.
  • Piush had alot to do with giving this confidence & then mentoring me to look further inside to become a better person – though his recommendations were from work aspects but its not surprising that exactly same qualities are required by me in current life – To be Analytical, Amiable 🙂 always..
  • Sneha’s constant response to my blabbers, traits, behaviours, words were more than helpful – Probably I am indebted to her for Life for this. I used to always think that am high on empathy, concern for others & outward looking while honestly I was only being selfish in all my pursuits by only expressing what I felt was right while ACTUALLY NOT realising what the other person is saying or wanting to say or means or feels. This has been a revelation of sorts to be equally if not more concerned about what the other person is saying, feeling, thinking, wanting.
  • Probably all my relationships have gone wrong at some points coz of my constant need to control & looking inward only – Mac, Rahul, Appy, Shweta Di, Nakul are a few I can think FirstHand.
  • Am not very good at Letting Go! It comes from Impatience, not trusting others to do the Right, not giving space – COMPLETE NO NO!
  • I was not very good at having difficult conversations – but have to learn the art of having a difficult conversation in a calm & peaceful way.
  • I did fear losing others and myself a lot – majorly Fear was making all the decisions which is not the Right way always! 

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