A lot of Youngsters must have explored this topic especially after reading “The FountainHead” – Your High School & Graduation Years are the times when you explore such ideals, socially accepted norms to understand them better so which path to follow.
I recall doing that myself starting at the age of 15 years & somewhere found the answer in being self dependent, financially independent, emotionally self reliable, socially responsible, well-read + travelled as my answers amongst other thoughts. Reason being that only in being free of other’s influence (most of it is financially rooted) can one choose the best for self & others. And hence all my efforts have been to deem myself resourceful enough to have my own perspectives.
I won’t deny that it has been difficult remembering these thoughts all the time despite knowing them intrinsically. Being emotionally (beliefs + trust) defeated at work & personal level has been the most difficult to manage/ navigate through.
Coming from a secure small loving family & industrial colony setup in a small city, I had challenges dealing with people’s perceptions & people’s intentions/ expectations plus I didn’t know how to maintain the balance between that & my own objectives/ beliefs.
Somewhere the belief that letting things ‘be’ in uncontrollable situations is the best thing to do. But how it can impact you & what changes it can make in you – I was always sceptical of that. I was not sure if I am emotionally that deep or aware to be able to manage the wrath being thrown at me.
Somewhere, making myself travel & explore different regions, people, cultures, relationships, situations was one of the ways I felt I can help myself understand Life & hence self better – am glad I did that.
This tells me loud and clear to KEEP THE CORE ABSOLUTE! KEEP THE CORE CLEAN for you to refer to it anytime & feel Good & Confident.
It’s the Layers that you have to develop & manage – the various layers of protection/ disguise which can be discarded/ transformed/ thickened/ softened/ added as per situations. They don’t mean much if Your Core is true & honest.
Most of the world, times, people, situations (Especially social, financial, transactional) can be dealt with the Layers Interaction so let it be judged/ commented. They Have to be Thickened to not let unnecessary things penetrate even emotions, empathy! THICK-SKINNED IS THE MOTTO!
There are only a few which bare your soul for the world – music, love for few chosen ones, values/beliefs, travel + clicking and that true connection with the SuperPower.
Your Work, Personality, Perspective, Interactions are a byproduct of the above two which showcases them.
So nothing to worry or be sentimental about – this world’s system has been long created before you were born & there are lots affecting it all the time beside your own space. Best you can do is to play your role fulfilling while trying to make your mark via your Core + Layers Cohabited System! 🙂 Amen.