How My Media Aversion Has Helped Me!

It was a hard thought decision but something I should have done long back to be a much STRONGER & MORE CONFIDENT Human Being! Yes You Heard It, Long Back!!

I stopped quite a lot of Media Inflows towards me (my ears, eyes, most importantly Mind), in order to do that I did the following :

  • Stopped Reading All the Media websites & Apps (TOI was banned long back, NDTV, IndiaToday, IBN, etc.)
  • Removed TV Subscription (Best Decision Ever)
  • Shortened Facebook time to <5mins/week & diverting the remaining time to reading, linkedin, twitter, medium on filtered interests/subjects.
  • Forming my Viewpoints towards everything based on my own Research (well judged resources + Authentic sources) rather than word services of others
  • Adjudging the Media, Film world, Cricketers in my life what they are – PRESSTITUTES!
  • Avoiding all so called friends/influencers who promoted the Above or spoke mostly about the same

This happened as a result of above :

  • The filtered content was self approved & self adjudged
  • Got more time to do my research & form my own opinions based on topics that I was curious about, which is much better than being involuntarily educated at topics of no interest or motivation
  • Found & Relied on much informed company of intellectuals & common believers
  • I could only focus on what I WANTED FROM MYSELF !! I COULD SEE MYSELF AS A CLEAN SLATE & JUDGE MY BREATHE, MY ACTIONS, MY WAVES, RAYS, ENERGY IN A COMPLETE IMPARTIAL LIGHT
  • PM, Startups, Tech, VCs, Design, Statistics, World Politics & Trade, Travel, Clicking, Values, Ethics, History, Human Psychology, Sports (Quality), Social Entrepreneur – these are subjects that I know am not going to leave till the end of my breath! So happy to have discovered them as interests, serious hobbies, passions.
  • I can see my Vision & Dreams alot more clearly & am much more determined than ever to achieve them by building small blocks & gathering people around.

Hope it helps others as well!! Peace for All, Amen.

 

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My Thoughts on Companionship

Since this topic is a lot on my & my parents’ minds – I thought of exploring it better & structuring it for getting some key insights out!

As a kid, as far as I can remember – I have always enjoyed others’ company & guidance, infact it has been almost a shortcoming like every other kid where they look for approval of others in everything.
I have also enjoyed making special friends who I can confide in & can spend time with, share lunches, viewpoints, learn from, etc.

As I grew up – I started looking at it as a BIG cause for my well being & that is where I went wrong a bit. I started over depending for every small emotional & needs on others which resulted in unnecessary emotional baggage!

But there has been something that I have learnt about companionship – IT CHANGES with TIME. And I have always looked at future possible relationships with the thought that things can change anytime coz of no fault of either parties. So there is no point in stressing over something that is frivolous in its nature.
There is another fact I have learnt that with plenty of external responsibilities, expectations – it has become more & more a thing of convenience. Which people develop & then break off as per their convenience. Even I might have done the same to others UNKNOWINGLY coz I know I cant do it on purpose.

Most of the reasons I have distanced from others is because they have resulted in making me the kind of person I don’t wish to be (mostly clingy & emotional). And it has always felt right after distancing myself from most of them. Some of them I have tried to touch base again for some reason & they have been great or many have not depending on situations on both sides.

Hence I have decided to be extremely careful about where I would invest my emotional energies & how which I believe is a good sign. It is important that people are busy & passionate, achievers in their own rights in their own fields. There should only be some necessary attachment or need for support which should be provided when really required.

But mostly the Best Ideal Companionship lets you be the Best Version of Yourself that you can be! I don’t think its clingy, its downgrading, it maybe makes you think a bit at necessary times but I do think a healthy functional relationship is positive, encouraging & motivating, supporting for mutual benefit.

And my aim is that only in any of the relationship/ friendship I seek – I find it very suffocating when it becomes selfish & malicious, power play, abusive as these are not the traits that I have grown up with & permit to stand on value system.

And I have decided that I will not accept sub – standards come what may in terms of work, husband, friends, hobbies, any ecosystem associated with me. #GodSpeed #WillNotRelent

 

 

Some Life Changing Moments

Writing some Life Changing Moments, Good & Bad :

  • Apart from coming into the Earth – being born in India, in an educated middle class family, in Northern Part of India, living in a thriving industrial engineers colony with families of different backgrounds, kids from different schools, different aspirations, mindsets
  • Since it was a partially Joint Family – so influence on my GrandMom & relatives being stronger
  • Admission into a Convent & adapting to its requirements – English speaking, strictness for discipline, competition for appreciation, emphasis on being a Leader
  • Playing with more boys in the colony -> resulting into being easily exploited & for no fault of mine
  • Exposure into Badminton Coaching & Theatre Classes – Perhaps the best aspect apart from being Convent Educated
  • Having some great friends like Nishu & Sweta Di for the reasons of mutual appreciation & good quality discussions Only
  • Not being allowed to pursue Badminton on an advanced Level made me quite sad
  • Some great trips to my Maternal Grandparents house – huge bungalow & amazing fruits to enjoy with loads of cousins
  • Moving to Ahmedabad – adapting to new school & friends circle (Uff! – toughness was a new feeling more so for emotional baggage)
  • Tough studies days – exposure to a bigger & developed city life!
  • 10th & 12th Board exams – > BTech admissions (you get exposed to systems & start disliking it there & then)
  • Some new set of people you come across & thinking about your career ahead! (Again UFFF! – This was perhaps one of the Darkest phases 🙂 since I felt everything I have done so far is a waste of everything)
  • Being Introduced to CAT ! <Yippee – 1> Discovered something great! & Totally fell in Love with it & was convinced to do it more & more!
  • XLRI admission & 2 years campus experience – It played a strong role in being who I am & what I hold dear to myself
  • JJMI Internship – Short & Lovely 🙂
  • Tata Stint – was not excited about going there but I think it turned out better than expected! <Travel, Click & Social Circle were found here>
  • Airtel & Snapdeal – They came & went like Firecrackers which shaped my profile for sure but also gave me some unasked pain! Its ok, No Pain so No Gain 🙂
  • Discovering a Permanent Friend in Krishna & Buddha -> Watching Mahabharat & Reading Gita is a natural healing process
  • Current Role Profile – No comments till I move to next role but I will always be thankful for it to give me a chance to build my Product Profile
  • Product Management & UX Discovery – Definitely Yippee -2 Moment as it has given me so much that I wanted to be & do in terms of professional space! I know this will be the path I want to be on & will take me towards my Ultimate Dream Realisations from here!
  • Much of my Travel + Click + Sports (Playing & Watching) + Social Entrepreneurship Moments have given me the Small Joys & Reaffirmations required at different turns of my life! Much Grateful for them
  • How my dependence on my Friends & others has reduced is amazing 🙂 Much more Thankful for that since I know I won’t allow anyone to hurt me emotionally or take advantage of me. How I have learnt to SelfCare & SelfLove & depend on my own instincts gives me the much required strength.
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That VISION For Me!

Till I don’t achieve it!

Till I don’t remove everything that’s blocking me from achieving it…

Till I don’t make every change in my life to make that VISION a reality…

I won’t give it up…!

And achieving it while not letting your values dilute – is most essential!

That vision is me at peace, calm, happy, smiling, dressed in pastel shade indian clothes or loose western clothes with no fear, concern – just satisfied & positive for life ahead!

  • Global Product Role
  • Executive MBA
  • Healthy Lifestyle + Amazing Wardrobe
  • Financial Strength + Savings Build
  • Dream Realization
  • Product Initiative
  • SHGs Series
  • Agency MakeUp
  • CEO of Consumer Tech/ Product company
  • Family – small & happy, loving
  • Parents Travel + Bungalow
  • Dikku’s Lifestyle
  • Startup Cell in XLRI + Societies in SMC
  • Tourism Experience Transformation for true appreciation of history, heritage, culture, people, values, etc.

 

Its that Kinda Phase

Its just that kinda stationary phase with alot of inbuilt inertia – trying to set things in motion but only receiving a force back to square one!

Rarely happens but happens am sure! Also there is no definite way to navigate through the same!

  • Some stay still
  • Some try too hard to make things happen
  • Some take solace in religion, astrology
  • Some find peace in loved ones
  • Some find solace in their hobbies/passion
  • Some keep planning for future
  • Some find peace in materialistic things
  • Some by focusing on physical health

I have decided to learn from the same as much I can – patience, working on my personality, knowledge, skills, networking, assets being some!
I have also decided to become my best friend in the same phase as none whatsoever can understand what am going through or feeling or why/ what I think to the exact detailed point.

Am quite certain that nothing remains constant – happiness, peace, noise, sadness! That’s how powerful Time is!
However what remains is your capability to manage the sail of your boat to face all kinds of weathers.

Am hopeful & optimistic for better times as ever!

Mithali Raj – Second Blog in 6 mths!

http://www.livemint.com/Sports/P2K1h746W6lHenFvfNWYZJ/Mithali-Rajs-long-innings.html

This article made me write a 2nd blog on her!

I feel so much common with her that its difficult to describe in words. The struggle, standing up for self, not giving up on one’s values, keeping parents & performance first – these are the simple but strong values that middle class girls in India from 80s & early 90s were brought up with.

So many of them gave in to marriage, materialism, shallowness for reasons unknown! Yet it feels so RIGHT when a few of them make it to the TOP & wish to be raring to go even more – Mithali Raj, you inspire me to not give up despite all hardships & disappointments and am most thankful to you for that.

Second, you inspire me how to carry myself with grit & humbleness!

Am sure you inspire so many others a lot more – my wish & pray that girls in India find a permanent place for sports in their daily lives for keeping fit & personality development. Also I hope more parents encourage their girls to not give up on sports!

Human’s Stay on Earth

Have been thinking lately (these thoughts are definitely not based on any recent developments but are based on my observations, interactions, discussions, reading over the past known years).. am quite certain of following views as well :

  • I do not think that Humans were supposed to breed on this planet, this planet was (if) created then was meant for appreciation, wonder, happiness, peace, plentifulness, etc. As story goes Adam n Eve faulted & every one later are bearing the (black) fruits of it!
  • Coming on this earth, in which family, country, religion, etc. are not chosen by anyone. However what one believes, controls, speaks, acts, behaves, etc. are & should be owned by the individual herself/himself. Saying this is how it happens coz of background or circumstances is simply a poor craftsman
  • Now that one has come on this planet & got a life, body, mind, heart – one should make the max use of it to lead a fulfilling life which does not harp on any negativity, demeans others lives, compares, hurts oneself or others, etc.
  • Whatever life one gets – 10/30/50/70 years – one should lead a healthy meaningful life while trying to uplift others around, give hope/faith amongst others. Create & sustain happiness while discarding materialism.
  • In order to achieve this, one is gifted skills/knowledge/awareness which are to be made the most use of to uplift themselves as well as others around them. Acting selfish is going against the basic purpose of this life.

Emotional Intelligence – Back to My Fav Topic

This one is never ending – isn’t it 🙂

These days have been weird, very weird – perhaps all uncomfortable & pushing/evolving phases are! I now recall being in lots of them – Phew!
However the intensity of the same & its impact can vary.

Perhaps best learning from my experience has been to let things happen while giving your best at it & expect nothing in return – Let Go of expectations, Don’t focus on what happens next or the results but just focus on current Moment & Live everyday as it is!

Its easier said than done – but its a methodological process if one can learn to master it, almost like working on a master piece patiently or running a marathon or working on a relationship!

One has to slowly & carefully identify which are the things that makes you upset – is it the thought of going to office, is it the thought of making dinner, is it the thought of travelling, it it the thought of working on something intensive. So WHAT?

Once you identify the WHAT, identify the WHY !

And then focus on Solution & Be Patient about it to come! That is it.. There is no two way about the last part coz you may think that since you have identified the What, Why & Solution – everything should fall into place but you have to Let the Universe do its work.

However much it may hurt but do not look down upon yourself & keep your head high!

Mithali Raj & Indian Women Cricket Team – A salute!

Who has not been impressed enough with the recent show of our ladies in the Cricket World Cup 2017 with their gallant march to the Finals by taking one world class team after the other down!

They took everyone by surprise with the inexperience in their team & played excellent knocks of 100s & taking multiple 5 wickets especially by Spinners. Indian team looked inspired, motivated & FRESH! They were wanting to go for the Kill & looking to WIN all the time.

Words fail me to impress Mithali Raj who has become a role model for me for sure with her cool headed & non interfering approach, solid knocks & smiling yet confident personality. Her body language exuberates Modesty, Dignity, Mental Strength, Defyness, Eagerness to prove all wrong against all odds.
Her story has impressed me & am sure so are the stories of 14 other girls who have come against various odds in their lives to perform at the big arena & become a world class player! Its not easy & everyone should know that.

In India, women sports is not really looked upon as a career option after so many years of Independence, Education. Though things have changed & we have had some national heroes like Mary Kom, Sania Mirza, Saina Nehwal, Sindhu, PT Usha, Dipa Karmakar, Sakshi Malik recently. But we are nowhere when compared to West & our culture, mindset has to go a long way to change for things on ground to change. Money shall flow, management shall improve if we get more & more acceptance from Society & Families at grass root level.

Perhaps this is the reason why I am so heart-broken at Ladies not winning the Cup. Rest am sure they have done more than their best & have made us so so so Proud while giving us so many moments to cherish & cheer for! Am still rooting for Women IPL to start soon.

Heart goes out to Mithali & Jhulan – am hoping against hope that they will give next World Cup another chance for us as they still have a lot to offer.

Rest am sure, things will change for the better! Amen

http://www.livemint.com/Sports/8W4aiIHSp1cFiiTMO0b44M/Mithali-Raj-and-Co-give-fillip-to-women-and-sports-in-India.html

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