There has been some recent discussion in Indian Media regarding how India needs a #MeToo movement! I can’t help but agree. It makes me feel sick that how a Female is made to feel so little physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically basis her Gender/sexuality/ right to expression.
I had been feeling very strongly about gender discrimination for a very long time now and since #MeToo movement last year it only became more firm that expressing it & agreeing formally with system + stakeholders is the only constructive way ahead. Today’s Freida Pinto’s Post made me want to write this blog much more in detail.
As a middle class growing girl in India – one has to go through several weird experiences (even boys have to go through their own share of experiences but), am talking about the socially avoidable & enforced ones because of limited mindsets of people & historically dragged dogmas.
When one is touched inappropriately ; when one is made to shut up again n again ; when one is looked upon differently especially at their boobs & V-part; when one is not expected to do well in Sports or Studies ; when one is not expected to enter Kitchen during “that time of the month” ; when one is made fun of for asking equal treatment ; when one is not expected to carry her own bags or taking care of herself while travelling alone or completing her own projects/ assignments without their male counterpart (Father/brother/friend/ colleague/husband/son/ etc.) – THESE ARE CONSIDERED NORMAL EXPERIENCES in our Society!
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who let it happen
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who go through it quietly
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who scheme, perpetuate it knowingly or unknowingly
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who encourage & create an environment for such experiences to happen
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who laugh about it & make fun about it
And Most Importantly, SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who do not raise it to right authority
When I say People – I mean girls, women, parents, family, husbands, everyone.
There is no Other way to deal with such behaviours/experiences but by being vigilant & aware to immediately raise the bell at the right authority and at right time. Also keep raising the issue till a resolution is found. To make it mandatory to make the system listen to you & give you justice. You are a human at the end of the day & deserve nothing less especially basis your gender.
I feel so burnt up inside when I think of what an emotional torture it must be for the girls, parents especially to be made to feel inferior & discriminated because of her Gender! If a city, educated, professional girl is made to Shut Up – Imagine the plights of those who are poor, unaware, ignorant.
To be Told this is acceptable is the Last Thing at least I will Take! I am ready to put in extra hours, ready to push my limits to extra miles but to be made to feel humiliated, uncomfortable, harassed or not respected for being myself is not acceptable in my Family, Social Circle, Office Environment or anywhere I decide to Breathe.
Am not for a loud, conflicting, verbose or hormonally high environment either – am all for Peace, Respect, Love, Humour, Smiles, Nods, Success : BUT not at the cost of Women or any race/caste/creed/color being sidelined.
So does India or the World or any society needs a #MeToo movement repeatedly – Hell Yes! Will there be negative repercussions of the same – Could be but the +Ves are far more especially the Noise, awareness & the empowerment to be yourself.
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!