Absolutism vs Relativism

A lot of Youngsters must have explored this topic especially after reading “The FountainHead” – Your High School & Graduation Years are the times when you explore such ideals, socially accepted norms to understand them better so which path to follow.

I recall doing that myself starting at the age of 15 years & somewhere found the answer in being self dependent, financially independent, emotionally self reliable, socially responsible, well-read + travelled as my answers amongst other thoughts. Reason being that only in being free of other’s influence (most of it is financially rooted) can one choose the best for self & others. And hence all my efforts have been to deem myself resourceful enough to have my own perspectives.

I won’t deny that it has been difficult remembering these thoughts all the time despite knowing them intrinsically. Being emotionally (beliefs + trust) defeated at work & personal level has been the most difficult to manage/ navigate through.

Coming from a secure small loving family & industrial colony setup in a small city, I had challenges dealing with people’s perceptions & people’s intentions/ expectations plus I didn’t know how to maintain the balance between that & my own objectives/ beliefs.
Somewhere the belief that letting things ‘be’ in uncontrollable situations is the best thing to do. But how it can impact you & what changes it can make in you – I was always sceptical of that. I was not sure if I am emotionally that deep or aware to be able to manage the wrath being thrown at me.

Somewhere, making myself travel & explore different regions, people, cultures, relationships, situations was one of the ways I felt I can help myself understand Life & hence self better – am glad I did that.

This tells me loud and clear to KEEP THE CORE ABSOLUTE! KEEP THE CORE CLEAN for you to refer to it anytime & feel Good & Confident.
It’s the Layers that you have to develop & manage – the various layers of protection/ disguise which can be discarded/ transformed/ thickened/ softened/ added as per situations. They don’t mean much if Your Core is true & honest.

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Most of the world, times, people, situations (Especially social, financial, transactional) can be dealt with the Layers Interaction so let it be judged/ commented. They Have to be Thickened to not let unnecessary things penetrate even emotions, empathy! THICK-SKINNED IS THE MOTTO!
There are only a few which bare your soul for the world – music, love for few chosen ones, values/beliefs, travel + clicking and that true connection with the SuperPower.
Your Work, Personality, Perspective, Interactions are a byproduct of the above two which showcases them.

So nothing to worry or be sentimental about – this world’s system has been long created before you were born & there are lots affecting it all the time beside your own space. Best you can do is to play your role fulfilling while trying to make your mark via your Core + Layers Cohabited System! 🙂 Amen.

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The 4th Dimension – TIME

Science is Guided by Spiritualism … Spiritualism is ably supported by Science!

TIME! Its the mightiest… The most Powerful!

  • It can do the impossible
  • It can Grant you Miracles – never imagined
  • It can make hurdles appear boons never imagined

At times – my sense says that all you are trying to do most of the time is convince Time to be on your side. All you are trying to tell Time is that am Good & hence be gentle on me.

But nobody can fool or lie to TIME – as it sees through, through & through! You can’t be drinking most of the time & then complain about gaining weight or losing concentration or about shivering hands later on.

So here is how TIME can be on your side :
– Be Consistent with who you are & who you wish to be
– Be Persistent in what you want from life
– After this, there is not much you can do – Believe in Time & Let it Be!

Yes its that simple but never that easy to follow. Because there are demons (Self created, society adapted, unnecessarily thrown at you) on daily basis which you have to fight – more mentally than physically. They make the above 3’s strengths weaker. Hence it is important to Believe – strong & with Patience.

Here is something which I have acquired recently which helps me :

  • Looking back at Historical characters – the few ones I admire from mythology, medieval + modern periods & studying their responses to various situations – good & bad. This is a childhood fascination which has become more vivid & I have somehow started relating with them on human level more than leader or figurine level.
  • Choosing a few strong personalities with impacts – mostly female (As I understand that emotion is tough to avoid for them too) in fields which I relate a lot with – Sports, Services, Journalism who are fighting for the Right at the same time fighting in male dominated spaces to be their own best versions. But am particular about not selecting Females with connects, wealths, privilege or other non- conformists ‘starting grounds’ as it makes the whole study biased.
  • A few other role models in my personal, work life to relate with & understand me by, while understanding that no overlapping can be 100% true.

I do not state that these are the only ways by which Time can be controlled or befriended at best – but I feel by doing above I feel much in control of my own demons to face the Swings of Time Reels!

Happy Weekend Everyone!


The Past is over, no matter how you look at it. The future is only anticipated on the basis of your past experience. What you completely overlook in your emotional involvement with what is over and gone… is the Present, which is the only time there really is. The Present is the only time in which you can experience the whole Universe. It is the only time in which you are happy and free and alive. The Power of Now holds everything you really want, and everything that is real. This is the essential message of awakened teacher, Eckhart Tolle in his bestselling books, “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose,” which is also the universal experience that A Course in Miracles reveals.
The thing to remember is that the transition from time to eternity does not occur through death, but through a change of mind about yourself and the purpose of the world. Be assured that this is not a sacrifice, but a joyful glad return to the natural state of the wholeness and freedom of your mind.
We are made whole in our desire to make whole. Let not time worry you, for all the fear that you and your brother experience is really past. Time has been readjusted to help us do, together, what your separate pasts would hinder. You have gone past fear, for no two minds can join in the desire for love without love’s joining them.-A Course in Miracles

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ZINGOGRAPHY : Tech/Product/UX/Startup Update # 10 – PM ToolKit

Please consider every PM to be a works-person, who needs tools apart from their skills to do a good job out of a situation!

Every worksmith/ carpenter/ chef, etc. is incomplete without their toolbox so its important as a Product Manager to be sure of your own sharpened tools basis your experience, intuition, comfort/compatibility, etc.

I also have now worked for 8+ years in different Products domain starting with Data, OTT, E-commerce, Retail Channels (B2B + B2C), Media, Food, Jewellery, FMCG, FinTech, Travel/OTA, AdTech, Transportation (Cabs/Trucks), etc.
And from my own & other PMs experience – let me share a list which I find is useful for one & all. These are compiled basis checking with other industries & PMs as well :

  1. Research Tools : SurveyMonkey, Google Forms, TypeForm
  2. Current Situation + Need Gap Analysis : Porter’s Frameworks – SWOT, 4P, STP, 5 Porter’s Force
  3. Project Management : Asana, Jira, Trello
  4. Team Management : Slack, Basecamp
  5. MVP & Road-mapping : Asana, Aha, ProdPad,
  6. Spec Writing : Word, DropBox Paper, GitHub
  7. User Scenarios Mapping : Excel, Smaply/StoriesonBoard
  8. Designing : Invision, Iconjar
  9. Coding/ Development : GitHub
  10. UX : Prototype,io, Axure
  11. Team screen sharing + feedback incorporation : Zeplin, Intercom
  12. AB Testing : VWO, Wasabi
  13. Analytics – Front End : Google Analytics, Firebase
  14. Analytics – Middle ware : Moengage, Clevertap, Appsflyer
  15. Analytics – Back End : SQL, ML Tools
  16. Campaign Management : Adobe 360
  17. Targeted Campaigns : Targetting
  18. Revenue + P&L Management : MS Excel Macro

Apart From this – the must have ingredient almost like Oiling is 5-6 hours of Reading, Networking, Experimenting, Failing, Sharing, etc.

All The Best : Let the Magic Begin!

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Is India even close to the #MeToo Movement?

There has been some recent discussion in Indian Media regarding how India needs a #MeToo movement! I can’t help but agree. It makes me feel sick that how a Female is made to feel so little physically, mentally, emotionally, psychologically basis her Gender/sexuality/ right to expression.

I had been feeling very strongly about gender discrimination for a very long time now and since #MeToo movement last year it only became more firm that expressing it & agreeing formally with system + stakeholders is the only constructive way ahead. Today’s Freida Pinto’s Post made me want to write this blog much more in detail.

As a middle class growing girl in India – one has to go through several weird experiences (even boys have to go through their own share of experiences but), am talking about the socially avoidable & enforced ones because of limited mindsets of people & historically dragged dogmas.

When one is touched inappropriately ; when one is made to shut up again n again ; when one is looked upon differently especially at their boobs & V-part; when one is not expected to do well in Sports or Studies ; when one is not expected to enter Kitchen during “that time of the month” ; when one is made fun of for asking equal treatment ; when one is not expected to carry her own bags or taking care of herself while travelling alone or completing her own projects/ assignments without their male counterpart (Father/brother/friend/ colleague/husband/son/ etc.) – THESE ARE CONSIDERED NORMAL EXPERIENCES in our Society!

SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who let it happen
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who go through it quietly

SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who scheme, perpetuate it knowingly or unknowingly

SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who encourage & create an environment for such experiences to happen
SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who laugh about it & make fun about it
And Most Importantly, SHAME ON SUCH PEOPLE – who do not raise it to right authority

When I say People – I mean girls, women, parents, family, husbands, everyone.

There is no Other way to deal with such behaviours/experiences but by being vigilant & aware to immediately raise the bell at the right authority and at right time. Also keep raising the issue till a resolution is found. To make it mandatory to make the system listen to you & give you justice. You are a human at the end of the day & deserve nothing less especially basis your gender.

I feel so burnt up inside when I think of what an emotional torture it must be for the girls, parents especially to be made to feel inferior & discriminated because of her Gender! If a city, educated, professional girl is made to Shut Up – Imagine the plights of those who are poor, unaware, ignorant.

To be Told this is acceptable is the Last Thing at least I will Take! I am ready to put in extra hours, ready to push my limits to extra miles but to be made to feel humiliated, uncomfortable, harassed or not respected for being myself is not acceptable in my Family, Social Circle, Office Environment or anywhere I decide to Breathe.

Am not for a loud, conflicting, verbose or hormonally high environment either – am all for Peace, Respect, Love, Humour, Smiles, Nods, Success : BUT not at the cost of Women or any race/caste/creed/color being sidelined.

So does India or the World or any society needs a #MeToo movement repeatedly – Hell Yes! Will there be negative repercussions of the same – Could be but the +Ves are far more especially the Noise, awareness & the empowerment to be yourself.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!

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