Listening is an important skill….
It doesn’t only happen with ears but with eyes, mind & body touch as well..!
Perhaps listening by eyes is the most important one – since they don’t lie. It is difficult to falsify what one sees from one’s own eyes – about surroundings as well as of others & if you can see through someone’s eyes then there is nothing beyond it.
Yes – learn to listen to be a more compassionate & successful human being in Life in general.
Those who are a well rounded personality & are in general appreciated by all are considered to be excellent with their people management skills & that is because they come across as friendly & compassionate to most of the people around. They tend to listen, understand others latent + expressed needs/wants better & faster and come across as supportive to achieve them.
This is a great skill set – even when talking to your customers, while analysing data of your business, it is important that you are able to connect the dots and able to listen, understand their issues to provide them a solution.
Same applies in relationships – starting with parents, siblings, friends, cousins, companion, spouse, in-laws, children : it is imperative that you listen & understand what is the person wanting to communicate. Where are they coming from & why are they saying that plus what do they exactly want & then how can you give them that basis your self awareness.
Many a times – you can’t abide because of circumstances & your own limitations and there is nothing wrong in being honest about it. In fact, straight forwardness is much appreciated by the mature & upright people & held in high regard when communicated in the right spirit & well within time. In fact the ones who keep people hanging & dilly dallying are not appreciated neither are those who turn their faces back after saying YES.
But here’s one more thing about Listening & Understanding – its a Long Process & Evolving one. One has to actually invest time & energy into it by spending time, observing them, their actions, their interactions with other people, their backgrounds of course, their words & actions, dreams, relationships, etc.
Its like keeping a hawk eye on Stock Market Blue Chips which are your Key Investments – sometimes it happens that a few are not visible with less information available but appear very interesting & worth every penny – I find them the most interesting coz few people will go for it for the effort asked & it can very much be the game changer. I have always gone for the obvious yet elusive – be in terms of choices of clothes, career choices, hobbies, people, etc.
Am sure, it is an evolving journey & I will adapt to grow better plus faster once am able to identify my areas of improvement. Last 1year or so has been a struggle with coming to terms to my feelings, personality & I feel I have taken leaps in terms of learning to be Patient, Perseverant, Humble, Positive despite everything crashing, Being Strong & Cool.
Still I think – I have distance to go in terms of controlling my reactions, feelings, expressing my needs, wants to those around me in a much more effective & acceptable way.
- The expression whenever it comes (let it come to the last possible in peace or conflict after understanding situation & all perspectives) has to be straight forward – without any drama & iota of doubt, straight forwardly as possible. Learn to control your wants/ desires for some other good time – what is Right or Good for all will Happen any which ways! You are too small a being – remember in a world outside your being. You can control your inside world & never what happens to you or what happens to others around you.
- Similarly, others views/ feedbacks are to be taken with the same feeling of it being their perspective – filter it out to sensible stuff while leaving the rest of it.
- Learn to be consistent in all situations – good or bad, outside or inside, home or at work. That way you are self aware & in touch with yourself all the time & their is no conflict of personalities & thoughts. You shall be much more at peace with yourself.
- Be Loving, considerate more & more towards others & always bring the +ve feelings first even in case of conflict – YES, IT HELPS & ITS THE RIGHT WAY. Be compassionate towards others issues, challenges, situations.
These shall be good points to kick off your remaining part of the year & build your personal or work lives! Get Going!