How to be Successful

There are still not many who really know what they want in their lives. They are majorly happy with whatever they are offered & are content with that. They will still complaint, be unhappy, unhealthy but that’s another matter.

I, for one & many reasons, believe in being a self driver & doing your best in every moment while leaving the results to the Bigger Power.

There are absolutely most of the things which are out of one’s control & rightly so. Plus as you grow, you realise that more & more things are not in your control – the only thing is how you feel, think, say, do, react to situations on immediate & long term basis.

As many of us have felt – both kinds of reactions immediate & long term ones are based on our past experiences, personality, beliefs, etc. And our learnings based on these.

In order to have Consistency in our behavior patterns – it is important they are interlinked via a common goal.

And hence one should have dreams… Progressive, Long term, all inclusive, Ultimate Dreams!

How to achieve them…

  • Visualize them very clearly
  • Break them down into blocks to work on
  • Start working incessantly & with all honesty towards it – without distractions
  • Surround yourself with people who will help you achieve that – very important!

There is no force that can stop you once you are able to focus everything on your own efforts without worrying about the results!

One shall observe things falling into place on there own without forcing them to and that’s the ACTUAL way of Living! Letting things fall into place while doing your Karma.

Good Luck 🙂

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Current Global Economy Scenario

Yes – it is worrying & highly concerning!

Disclaimer : Am no Global Policy or Economics Expert, am a Digital Product Specialist with my own vested interests for causes, people I love & care.
But I do credit myself to thinking well for the World & be able to suggest from my experience & in-depth research skillsets – what can be done to improve the situation.

My Key Concerns :

  • TRUMP (Face-Palm) : He is going on making drastic changes around employment, Trade Policies, Climate Pacts, Foreign Relations without taking long term & wide level impact into considerations. US Politics these days is more interesting than watching Live Sports & Avengers Movies. The latest being launching trade war on China – You cannot be serious about being so impractical about such critical decisions which directly impacts jobs, lives of people.
  • Brexit : How on earth UK is going to be a stronger economy by separating itself from EU, same EU nations which in medieval, modern history have helped UK become richer & supreme power, baffles me. This is a stupid game of Power which Conservatives have got all wrong – I still pray EU can make them pull back & there is no need for referendum as the decision to exit was on false foot always!
  • Tech Giants to Douche Bags : Yes how Silicon Valley CEOs have exposed their immaturity & unpreparedness to manage bigger issues has proved to the world that nothing Good is created in a hurry. They have to take the hard way to be well accepted by all – Mark Zuckerberg’s expressions during the council grilling sessions will call for some nightmares for most of the entrepreneurs. Elon Musk’s everyday antics to tweets are such an embarrassment to the talent Tech space possesses.

Refer this article : https://www.economist.com/briefing/2018/01/20/the-techlash-against-amazon-facebook-and-google-and-what-they-can-do

  • Bad Media Boys : How Media has played into the hands of power & fame hungry industries + individuals is scary to the least. In my view, Media industry has lost maximum value in recent past though it should have grown more reputable with time since its one of the key pillars of a functioning Democracy. There are so few names in the space of Journalism & Media industry who you can trust to give authentic unbiased information & be done away with opinions & mind feeds.
  • Absolute Authority of Power : What is with this world of keeping order by creating complete surrender to power of authority? Why can’t issues be openly debated & views be formed on them by mutual agreement & settlement? Judicial & Legislators have to play a more informed & vigilant role in here.
  • Impatient & Wannabe Generation thriving on Instant Gratification & material possessions : Have given up on them though high on confidence + Awareness & low on hesitation, these folks run away from grinding & do not believe in playing hard & long & patient & gradual to win. It’s now or never with them all the time.
  • Creativity & Art not being allowed to flourish : There are umpteen examples of creativity & artists coming under the hawk eye of politics, regulations, restrictions! Unfair… Let creativity flow & let consumers decide it’s trashy or classy.

Perhaps, we need more of MJs “Save the World” versions not just in Music but in every facet of life.

What is frightening is that these concerns are gonna have long term impacts upto 5 – 10 years on everyone’s lives.

Some solutions :

  • Global bodies like UN, IMF, World Bank, G8, Security Council have to come together to create more strong consensus against the “OBVIOUS WRONG” happening across the globe. They need to address it by first accepting what’s wrong with being Simply Selfish.
  • Bottoms Up :  people will need to start creating noise about their displeasure & make authority listen, in every facets – home, workspace, social media, societies, municipalities, judiciary, law & order.
  • Wait for something drastic to happen at one end of the world for other to abide as no option! This shall have heavy repercussions though, someone will have to pay the price. AMEN

Listen & Understand..!

Listening is an important skill….

It doesn’t only happen with ears but with eyes, mind & body touch as well..!

Perhaps listening by eyes is the most important one – since they don’t lie. It is difficult to falsify what one sees from one’s own eyes – about surroundings as well as of others & if you can see through someone’s eyes then there is nothing beyond it.

Yes – learn to listen to be a more compassionate & successful human being in Life in general.

Those who are a well rounded personality & are in general appreciated by all are considered to be excellent with their people management skills & that is because they come across as friendly & compassionate to most of the people around. They tend to listen, understand others latent + expressed needs/wants better & faster and come across as supportive to achieve them.

This is a great skill set – even when talking to your customers, while analysing data of your business, it is important that you are able to connect the dots and able to listen, understand their issues to provide them a solution.

Same applies in relationships – starting with parents, siblings, friends, cousins, companion, spouse, in-laws, children : it is imperative that you listen & understand what is the person wanting to communicate. Where are they coming from & why are they saying that plus what do they exactly want & then how can you give them that basis your self awareness.
Many a times – you can’t abide because of circumstances & your own limitations and there is nothing wrong in being honest about it. In fact, straight forwardness is much appreciated by the mature & upright people & held in high regard when communicated in the right spirit & well within time. In fact the ones who keep people hanging & dilly dallying are not appreciated neither are those who turn their faces back after saying YES.

But here’s one more thing about Listening & Understanding – its a Long Process & Evolving one. One has to actually invest time & energy into it by spending time, observing them, their actions, their interactions with other people, their backgrounds of course, their words & actions, dreams, relationships, etc.
Its like keeping a hawk eye on Stock Market Blue Chips which are your Key Investments – sometimes it happens that a few are not visible with less information available but appear very interesting & worth every penny – I find them the most interesting coz few people will go for it for the effort asked & it can very much be the game changer. I have always gone for the obvious yet elusive – be in terms of choices of clothes, career choices, hobbies, people, etc.

Am sure, it is an evolving journey & I will adapt to grow better plus faster once am able to identify my areas of improvement. Last 1year or so has been a struggle with coming to terms to my feelings, personality & I feel I have taken leaps in terms of learning to be Patient, Perseverant, Humble, Positive despite everything crashing, Being Strong & Cool.
Still I think – I have distance to go in terms of controlling my reactions, feelings, expressing my needs, wants to those around me in a much more effective & acceptable way.

  • The expression whenever it comes (let it come to the last possible in peace or conflict after understanding situation & all perspectives) has to be straight forward – without any drama & iota of doubt, straight forwardly as possible. Learn to control your wants/ desires for some other good time – what is Right or Good for all will Happen any which ways! You are too small a being – remember in a world outside your being. You can control your inside world & never what happens to you or what happens to others around you.
  • Similarly, others views/ feedbacks are to be taken with the same feeling of it being their perspective – filter it out to sensible stuff while leaving the rest of it.
  • Learn to be consistent in all situations – good or bad, outside or inside, home or at work. That way you are self aware & in touch with yourself all the time & their is no conflict of personalities & thoughts. You shall be much more at peace with yourself.
  • Be Loving, considerate more & more towards others & always bring the +ve feelings first even in case of conflict – YES, IT HELPS & ITS THE RIGHT WAY. Be compassionate towards others issues, challenges, situations.

These shall be good points to kick off your remaining part of the year & build your personal or work lives! Get Going!

How Love is THE MOST Important Force!

Well – It is…

And it is important you never stop believing in that & the Person/Things you decide to invest Love in… It is important to invest your faith more than money, time in People/Qualities/Values/Hobbies you Hold dear to your Heart.

Its okay to have doubts, questions for the same & their value additions to your life + vice versa. But that’s when you decide to hold strong & go back to check the emotion which made you choose that & not something else.. Its important you remain Honest to that EMOTION & Grind to see the Other Side. Don’t give up easy as it’s giving up on your own self belief.

If it was a frivolous & a transactional Emotion e.g. convenience – it is bound to create ripples & doubts! However if the emotion is strong then all negatives are overcome mostly!

It’s important one sees one’s relationships like a mirror that why did you happen to be with that person – was it coz you were neighbors so you happened to spend a lot of time together & resulted in being married as this person was it. Then you should remain honest to that selection. If you happen to regret it later then you are doing double damage.

These emotions can be Pure Attraction, Loyalty, Duty, Responsibility, Faith, Deep connection or even transactional like Money, Fame, Sex, convenience, etc.
Just remember that the effect of the deepness or shallowness of emotion shall be the same as felt! Its a simple law of : “you reap as you sow”!

Its also important to Let it Flow & Not Hold on to tight for things to change…

I very strongly believe that this world RIGHT NOW really needs more such people who know how to love, care, give, believe truly and am not really talking about the traditional marriage way.
I mean two capable strong, successful people who can give + provide to one another’s needs. Who are not very demanding but understand one another in silence. People who have their own perspectives & yet can appreciate/respect one another’s.
Modern yet believe & trust in the old fashioned ways.

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